Relationship Building


When We Apologize

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Apologies are so easily thrown out that it becomes difficult to known when they are genuine. Brenda defines a few...

Men Often Feel Stuck

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Once in a while I try to count the men/couples I've worked with in the therapy room over the forty plus years of...

The Healing Cycle and The Wounding Cycle

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC, Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., LCSW, Carrissa Pannuzzo, M.A., LMFT-T, LPC-T, Laura Demetrician, M.S., LMFT

The wounding process in relationships can be cyclical. If repeated enough times, our responses become second nature...

The We/They Mentality

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

This mentality can be destructive. Although perhaps temporarily necessary in something like sports, the we/then...

Games People Play to Avoid Taking Responsibility

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

People, because they fear losing love or arousing anger often learn to get their needs met by indirect means. Games...

One Sure Thing In Successful Relationships

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

I’m teaching a couples class. I’m sharing with them well-researched and applied points that assure success in...

Guarding the Calendar

Laura Demetrician, M.S., LMFT

Life can feel out of control sometimes, and as the school year starts, I recommend taking an honest real look at the...

Five Steps in Forgiving

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Forgiveness is not sympathy. Forgiveness is not denying unfairness. Forgiveness does not have to forget...

Rambling Resentments

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Bitter discontent at being treated unfairly. We all experience it. People, circumstances and situations lingering...


Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Those who influence us sometimes assign us things. A significant part of assigned influence is that we may choose...