Relationship Building


Can This Marriage Be Saved?

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Marriage skills must be worked at. The skills needed to succeed at marriage are often not learned by watching close...

Paying Attention

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

One of the foundational skills to the success of any relationship is our ability to listen. As simple as this may...

Don’t Argue With a Woman as You Would With a Man

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Six things to avoid when arguing with a woman. A valuable resource in how to negotiate the maze of arguing...

Once and For All!

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Brenda takes a well used expression "…once and for all!" and normalizes the frustration we all experience...

Please Hear What I am Saying

Don't be fooled by me. Don't be fooled by the face I wear for I wear a mask, a thousand masks, masks that...

Valentine's Day: Cheesy or Not, Affection Appreciated

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

The following is from an anonymous male: "We really are in a bind. Yes, it's a schmaltzy holiday, originally...

When We Apologize

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Apologies are so easily thrown out that it becomes difficult to known when they are genuine. Brenda defines a few...

Men Often Feel Stuck

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Once in a while I try to count the men/couples I've worked with in the therapy room over the forty plus years of...

The Healing Cycle and The Wounding Cycle

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC, Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., LCSW, Carrissa Pannuzzo, M.A., LMFT-T, LPC-T, Laura Demetrician, M.S., LMFT

The wounding process in relationships can be cyclical. If repeated enough times, our responses become second nature...

The We/They Mentality

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

This mentality can be destructive. Although perhaps temporarily necessary in something like sports, the we/then...