Articles about Anger
What's Behind That Anger?
Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Anger is a complex emotion and uncomfortable for many. Since anger is often a secondary emotion, one is benefited by identifying the primary emotion anger covers. Along with this are the possible thoughts and demands that feed the anger.
Anger, The "A" Word
Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Anger is a word that creates great discomfort for many people. However, there are many reasons why anger can be a positive contribution to any relationships
Confrontation
Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Confrontation is a difficult behavior to master yet crucial in our ability to build a sense of equality and respect in relationships. There are specific steps in preparing to confront that one can follow that help in creating the best possible outcome.
Deprivation and Anger
Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Feelings of anger often cover many different primary emotions: hurt, confusion, fear, and rejection. Deprivation, often based in fear, is a part of life. Placing our confidence in the Lord's availability may not reduce deprivation but can help increase our ability to be comforted.
Learning to Fight Fair
Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC
All of us have times when we disagree or fight and fight dirty. There are helpful guidelines to fighting fair. They may be ideal but these guidelines promote the best possible atmosphere for you and for your loved ones.
Why Giving is Better Than Receiving
Whitney Stager, M.S.
Learning how to give without expectation will help to strengthen and revitalize your relationship with others and with God.
For Shame, For Shame: How to End Shaming When Disciplining
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
The power and influence of parents is great; keeping the parent-child relationship in its proper place
God's Forgiveness
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
God's forgiveness is complete. He moves us from shame and guilt to being set free.
How to Stop Bullying
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
Helpful suggestions and step by step plan to end bullying
Escaping the Role of Scapegoat
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
A vignette portraying a family scapegoat moving from cooperating with the role to rejecting the role
Parenting Perspectives on Behavior and Bonding
Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT
A child's oppostional behavior may indicate emotional pain. Article explores larger perspectives, including need for bonding and healing.
Easter Clothes: Throwing Off Cloaks of Unforgiveness
Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT
Forgiveness brings emotional and spiritual healing. Using Biblical references to Palm Sunday and Easter, and a story from Corrie Ten Boom, this article shows how the old "clothes" or habits around unforgiveness hamper our freedom and joy.
Family Systems and Generational Bondage
Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT
Article describes how past generational patterns can influence current family functioning, and how God can equip us in healthy family functioning.
Marching On
Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT
Article shows how God can encourage and strengthen us when facing fatigue and discouragement in challenging situations.
Overcoming the Role of Family Hero
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
A vignette portraying common characteristics of the family hero
God's Presence in the Midst of Suffering
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
Moving account of experiencing God's presence in the midst of horrendous suffering
God's Peace in the Midst of a Crisis
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
Moving account of a young woman who experiences the peace of God in the midst of a personal crisis
Tearing Down the Wall Through Forgiveness
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
What forgiveness really is and how relationships can be restored
Blame A Block to Healing
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Life hurts sometimes. With the hurt we can look for a person to blame. When we project blame toward others we are really saying they are responsible for our failures. If others are responsible for our failures, do they then get credit for our success? Find ways in this article to combat the temptation to blame.
Acute Stress
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Acute stress is the initial concentrated exposure to a traumatic event or events. Acute stressors might be a war, being robbed, experiencing excessive cruelty, a natural disaster, viewing human mutilation, etc. What happens to our bodies in acute stress is that the unexpected events put the body in a type of strain. After being exposed to trauma, the sense of feeling safe is hard to regain.
Marital Disloyalty
Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC
This article addresses the process of how marital disloyalty begins or continues.
Clearly Wrong: Bad Behavior and What To Do About It
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
How do we reside in the place of love when we fail in our behavior with others. There are times when each of us engages in bad behavior: Behavior we do not find acceptable to God or ourselves. What do we do when we are wrong in our behavior? This article provides answers; a "how to" in moving from bad behavior to a better "place," a forgiven place, a place of reconciliation with God and ourselves.
The Third Step in the Reconciliation Process
Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC
This article describes the five steps in the process of reconciliation and focuses in detail on the third step.
A Story of Getting Honest
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Being honest with yourself is the first step and straightest line to mental and spiritual health. This is a story about someone struggling with what the “supposed to” form of living produces, and applies to anyone who hides difficult feelings from themselves.
Using Mindfulness to Keep Relationships Healthy
Whitney Stager, M.S.
Insights and tips are provided on how use mindfulness to be attentive to others feelings, as well as your own, in everyday experiences, to help strengthen your relationship.
Coping With Holiday Grief
Compiled by Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Adapted from "Ten Ways To Cope With Holiday Grief" by L.B. Schultz, this handout provides information that is both practical and helpful for anyone who experiences renewed grief during the holiday seasons. Grief knows no time frame. Because of that fact, knowing what is normal and helpful may aid in alleviating and normalize the grief responses.
