Conflict

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Anger, The "A" Word

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Anger is a word that creates great discomfort for many people. However, there are many reasons why anger can be a positive contribution to any relationships

Confrontation

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Confrontation is a difficult behavior to master yet crucial in our ability to build a sense of equality and respect in relationships. There are specific steps in preparing to confront that one can follow that help in creating the best possible outcome.

Good, Bad or Equal

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Each person in a family or group works at finding the way in which they are special. The process or, at times, battle for significance goes awry. God has perspective on what makes us all equal.

Learning to Fight Fair

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

All of us have times when we disagree or fight and fight dirty. There are helpful guidelines to fighting fair. They may be ideal but these guidelines promote the best possible atmosphere for you and for your loved ones.

Saying I'm Sorry

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Saying "I'm sorry." entail more than these two words. Examples in scripture outline what feeling sorry means and paints a word picture of our internal experience when feeling truly sorry.

Easter Clothes: Throwing Off Cloaks of Unforgiveness

Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT

Forgiveness brings emotional and spiritual healing. Using Biblical references to Palm Sunday and Easter, and a story from Corrie Ten Boom, this article shows how the old "clothes" or habits around unforgiveness hamper our freedom and joy.

Stand Up For Yourself Without Putting Others Down

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Two vignettes demonstrating how to stand up for yourself without putting others down

Helpful Guidelines For Resolving Conflict

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Conflict is normal and full of potential if we manage it skillfully

How to Stop Bullying

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Helpful suggestions and step by step plan to end bullying

Tearing Down the Wall Through Forgiveness

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

What forgiveness really is and how relationships can be restored

Clearly Wrong: Bad Behavior and What To Do About It

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

How do we reside in the place of love when we fail in our behavior with others. There are times when each of us engages in bad behavior: Behavior we do not find acceptable to God or ourselves. What do we do when we are wrong in our behavior? This article provides answers; a "how to" in moving from bad behavior to a better "place," a forgiven place, a place of reconciliation with God and ourselves.

Mocking In Families

A "Dear Rosa" question and answer regarding the shamed based communication and its impact on family members.

Trauma Happens To Competent Healthy People

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Trauma causes a reaction in people. That reaction is physical because the brain is signaling the body to do something. This is true with natural disasters like floods and tornadoes as well as fighting or past trauma in relationships. What this feels like and how this affects a marital relationship is discussed in this article as well as the beginnings of what to do.

Using Mindfulness to Keep Relationships Healthy

Insights and tips are provided on how use mindfulness to be attentive to others feelings, as well as your own, in everyday experiences, to help strengthen your relationship.

Making Your Way Through Transition

Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC

This article describes the challenges we face when going through difficult life changes. It also gives a way of navigating through that difficult time.

10 Tips For Solving Problems

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Listed are ten simple yet challenging factors to remember when attempting to bring a difficult conversation to a calmer level. Both parties, working in this manner, may be able to move towards increased understanding of one another and look for ways to have both of you to have the things you value respected.

Validation is Not Agreement

Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC

This article describes the difference between validating another person's communication and agreeing with it. Examples are given.

Christmas Shocking

Christmas this year may not happen as you picture it. When things do not go as planned, you may experience Christmas culture shock.

Facing the Holidays Together

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Each year numerous couples and families struggle to keep pace with the expectations placed upon them from various sources. Keeping extended family, friends, and each other happy requires great skill around negotiation, self-awareness, and the provision of flexibility. This article outlines several guidelines to be aware of as the festivities are rushing in to eat up your time and energy.

Turning Financial Stress into an Opportunity for Growth and Attachment in Marriage

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Many couples experience financial stress at some point in their marriage. However uncomfortable that stress may be, it can also be an opportunity for growth and attachment in marriage. This article gives tips on how to discuss finances with your spouse in a positive way and to develop a team approach to family finances.

Tips for Talking About Finances

Talking about money can lead to conflict, but research shows that having a plan on how to handle disagreements leads to happier marriages. This article provides some useful tips on handling your differences regarding finances.

To Rescue or Not, That is the Question

Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC

This article explores ways in which parents rescue their adolescent children and ways to weigh the decision whether to act on their behalf.

What Teens Want Parents to Understand

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Some teens believe that parents "don't get it" or "just don't understand." Recently, I asked teens to help me understand what it was like to be a teenager. This article reports their comments.

Family Finances: Don't Go Solo

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Many couples experience financial stress at some point in their marriage. How they communicate that stress to one another is significant. In this article, Christine provides a plan for couples to talk about family finances that builds unity and a team approach.

Rebuilding After the Storm

August 18, 2005. A record breaking day in the history of Wisconsin with 27 confirmed tornadoes in one twenty-four hour period. In one moment, debris was strewn everywhere and the destruction left behind on that day was well into the millions of dollars. Addiction is destructive, like a tornado, and you are left to deal with the aftermath of a person struggling with addiction. Whether the addiction is food, alcohol, drugs, gambling, or pornography, a trail of wreckage is left behind and rebuilding needs to begin.

Working Hard To Be Liked

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

People pleasers work very hard to be liked and crave love and acceptance from others at the cost of their own identity. The real person can become lost in the daze of perceived expectations. But there is good news.

Trails of Trouble - Children and School Performance

Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC

This article addresses the many feelings parents and children face as a result of school challenges.

ADHD and Homework: It Can Work!

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Children with ADHD have a tremendous amount of potential. ADHD is not a limitation nor a predictor of school performance. In this article, Christine provides a practical guideline for parents to help make homework time more productive and less stressful.

Cadence 91: Prayer for Military Families

Sarah L. Pollock (daughter of Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMF

Cadence 91 is a poetic prayer in honor of all military serving in Iraq and Afghanistan. Based on Psalm 91, this prayer poignantly depicts the physical, emotional and spiritual trials of war and how the great love and security of Jesus Christ will not fail.

Family Conflict and the Holidays: God Bless Us, Every One!

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Christmas is supposed to be a time of great joy and celebration, isn’t it? Yet, many have a relative or two in which there is some tension. When you consider the extra stress of the shopping, wrapping, food preparation, traveling, and stretched finances, it is no wonder that family gatherings can be stressful. This article provides tips to handle the stress of family and the holidays with God’s help.

Adolescent Girls Battling Eating Disorders

Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC

This article explores the effects of adolescent female eating disorders on the individual and the family. It also gives options for getting help.

Broadcasts

ADHD and Homework: It Can Work! #3 of 3, #3361

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Children with ADHD have a tremendous amount of potential. ADHD is not a limitation nor a predictor of school performance. In this 3 part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss practical ways parents can help make homework time more productive and less stressful.

ADHD and Homework: It Can Work! #2 of 3, #3360

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Children with ADHD have a tremendous amount of potential. ADHD is not a limitation nor a predictor of school performance. In this 3 part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss practical ways parents can help make homework time more productive and less stressful.

ADHD and Homework: It Can Work! #1 of 3, #3359

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Children with ADHD have a tremendous amount of potential. ADHD is not a limitation nor a predictor of school performance. In this 3-part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss practical ways parents can help make homework time more productive and less stressful.

Family Conflict and the Holidays: God Bless Us, Every One! #2 of 2, #3352

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Christmas is supposed to be a time of great joy and celebration, isn’t it? Yet, many of us find the stress of family and holiday gatherings to be a recipe for conflict. In this two part radio series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage share tips on how to handle the stress of family and the holidays.

Family Conflict and the Holidays: God Bless Us, Every One! #1 of 2, #3351

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Christmas is supposed to be a time of great joy and celebration, isn’t it? Yet, many of us find the stress of family and holiday gatherings to be a recipe for conflict. In this two part radio series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage share tips on how to handle the stress of family and the holidays.

Standing Up For Yourself While Honoring Others, #4 of 4, #3350

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Conflict can serve to deepen and strengthen relationships when handled well. In this four part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss important principles in handling conflict and standing up for yourself that can lead to deeper and more satisfying relationships.

Standing Up For Yourself While Honoring Others, #3 of 4, #3349

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Conflict can serve to deepen and strengthen relationships when handled well. In this four part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss important principles in handling conflict and standing up for yourself that can lead to deeper and more satisfying relationships.

Standing Up For Yourself While Honoring Others, #2 of 4, #3348

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Conflict can serve to deepen and strengthen relationships when handled well. In this four part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss important principles in handling conflict and standing up for yourself that can lead to deeper and more satisfying relationships.

Standing Up For Yourself While Honoring Others, #1 of 4, #3347

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Conflict can serve to deepen and strengthen relationships when handled well. In this four part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss important principles in handling conflict and standing up for yourself that can lead to deeper and more satisfying relationships.

Working Hard To Be Liked, #3 of 3, #3346

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

People pleasers work very hard to be liked and crave love and acceptance from others at the cost of their own identity. The real person can become lost in the daze of perceived expectations. In this series of radio programs, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss the need to please and provide practical suggestions on breaking the habit of people pleasing.

Working Hard To Be Liked, #2 of 3, #3345

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

People pleasers work very hard to be liked and crave love and acceptance from others at the cost of their own identity. The real person can become lost in the daze of perceived expectations. In this series of radio programs, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss the need to please and provide practical suggestions on breaking the habit of people pleasing.

Working Hard To Be Liked, #1 of 3, #3344

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

People pleasers work very hard to be liked and crave love and acceptance from others at the cost of their own identity. The real person can become lost in the daze of perceived expectations. In this series of radio programs, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss the need to please and provide practical suggestions on breaking the habit of people pleasing.

Honey, are you doing that to bug me? #5 of 5, #3338

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

We sometimes think that our spouses do things just to bug us, when it is really how they are hard wired. In this series Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss some of the more common ways that spouses may be hard wired differently.

Honey, are you doing that to bug me? #4 of 5, #3337

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

We sometimes think that our spouses do things just to bug us, when it is really how they are hard wired. In this series Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss some of the more common ways that spouses may be hard wired differently.

Honey, are you doing that to bug me? #3 of 5, #3336

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

We sometimes think that our spouses do things just to bug us, when it is really how they are hard wired. In this series Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss some of the more common ways that spouses may be hard wired differently.

Honey, are you doing that to bug me? #2 of 5, #3335

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

We sometimes think that our spouses do things just to bug us, when it is really how they are hard wired. In this series Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss some of the more common ways that spouses may be hard wired differently.

Honey, are you doing that to bug me? #1 of 5, #3334

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

We sometimes think that our spouses do things just to bug us, when it is really how they are hard wired. In this series Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss some of the more common ways that spouses may be hard wired differently.

Family Finances: Don't Go Solo, #4 of 4, #3327

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Many couples experience financial stress at some point in their marriage. How they communicate that stress to one another is significant. In this four part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss ways couples can talk about family finances that builds unity and a team approach to family finances.

Family Finances: Don't Go Solo, #3 of 4, #3326

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Many couples experience financial stress at some point in their marriage. How they communicate that stress to one another is significant. In this four part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss ways couples can talk about family finances that builds unity and a team approach to family finances.

Family Finances: Don't Go Solo, #2 of 4, #3325

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Many couples experience financial stress at some point in their marriage. How they communicate that stress to one another is significant. In this four part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss ways couples can talk about family finances that builds unity and a team approach to family finances.

Family Finances: Don't Go Solo, #1 of 4, #3324

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

Many couples experience financial stress at some point in their marriage. How they communicate that stress to one another is significant. In this four part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss ways couples can talk about family finances that builds unity and a team approach to family finances.

What Teens Want Parents to Understand, #3 of 3, #3223

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

As teens are going through many changes, they sometimes assume that parents “don’'t get it” or “just don't understand.” Recently, Christine Vander Wielen asked teens, “"What would you like parents to understand about being a teen?”" In this three-part series of broadcasts, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss the teens’ answers and provide parenting tips to help parents and teens remain connected during the teen years.

What Teens Want Parents to Understand, #2 of 3, #3222

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

As teens are going through many changes, they sometimes assume that parents “don'’t get it” or “just don'’t understand.” Recently, Christine Vander Wielen asked teens, “"What would you like parents to understand about being a teen?"” In this three-part series of broadcasts, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss the teens’ answers and provide parenting tips to help parents and teens remain connected during the teen years.

What Teens Want Parents to Understand, #1 of 3, #3321

Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW

As teens are going through many changes, they sometimes assume that parents “don'’t get it” or “just don'’t understand.” Recently, Christine Vander Wielen asked teens, "“What would you like parents to understand about being a teen?”" In this three-part series of broadcasts, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss the teens'’ answers and provide parenting tips to help parents and teens remain connected during the teen years.

God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #9 of 9, #3313

Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT

This program is a conversational wrap-up between Lynda Savage and Mary Lambrecht of the series: God’s Fearless Love for Challenging Relationships. It reviews main concepts around challenging relationships: unspoken dreams, communication with challenging individuals, abiding in Christ, Biblical relational models for challenging relationships, and how forgiveness is important.

God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #8 of 9, #3312

Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT

Program looks at the benefits of forgiveness, including spiritual freedom and hope for the future. Mary Lambrecht shares a personal story of forgiveness and a short testimony of her brother’s salvation in Christ, shortly before he died of AIDS in 1991.

God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #7 of 9, #3311

Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT

Program explores forgiveness: what it is and what it isn’t. The story of Corrie Ten Boom forgiving one of her captors from a Nazi concentration camp further illustrates key principles around forgiveness.

God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #6 of 9, #3310

Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT

This program explores the concept of Godly boundaries in conflictual relationships, and touches on the topic of abuse.

God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #5 of 9, #3309

Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT

Challenges in relationships can include others failing us or disappointing us, even in times of our greatest need. This program gives examples of how Christ drew upon God the Father’s love and sovereignty, and His sovereignty in the terrorist attack on the United States, September 11, 2001.

God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #4 of 9, #3308

Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT

When conflict occurs in a relationship, we can learn to draw from God’s agape love, rather than from our own human love. Through a story of a boy and a horse, this program explores how the principle of abiding in Christ can both help us love others, and also give us wisdom with appropriate boundaries with others.

God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #3 of 9, #3307

Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT

This program further explores, through study of the story of Jesus raising Lazarus from the dead (John 11), healthy principles of relating to others in challenging times.

God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #2 of 9, #3306

Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT

Conflict and challenges in relationships were part of Jesus’ walk on earth, just as they are part of our earthly walk. This program will explore how Jesus, Lazarus, and Mary and Martha effectively walked through conflict with one another to a place of love and understanding.

God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #1 of 9, #3305

Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT

Fears around the loss of a personal dream can influence our relationships. This program will explore how unspoken inner hopes and dreams can cause conflict in relationships, and how Christ can help us verbalize dreams to self and others.

Trauma in Relationships, #3281

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Trauma happens to competent, healthy, strong, people. An unexpected assault on the senses or in any way a harmful stressor will cause a natural reaction to anyone. It is lovingly important to know what this response is doing to us in healthy and unhealthy ways. This fascinating program will look at how we are impacted by trauma and what to do about it.

The Silent Treatment: A Different Perspective, #3191

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Lynda Savage and Paul Cameron discuss better ways to work through the hurts which cause the "silent treatment."

Trauma and Triggers in Relationships: Conflicts Born in the Past #2 of 2, #3245

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Many bumps in the road of relationships turn into major clashes because of past trauma in the history of one or both people. Lynda and Paul discuss this pattern and how to recover peace and calm between the parties involved.

Trauma and Triggers in Relationships: Conflicts Born in the Past #1 of 2, #3244

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Many bumps in the road of relationship turn into major clashes because of past trauma in the history of one or both people. Lynda and Paul discuss this pattern and how to recover peace and calm between the parties involved.

Saying I'm Sorry #2 of 2, #3243

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

We are taught from an early age to say "I'm sorry." We may not initially understand what we are saying or the need for this expression. However, in these two programs, Brenda Spina and Paul Cameron discuss examples from Scripture that help us understand the importance of, the sides of, and the blessings of saying "I'm sorry."

Saying I'm Sorry #1 of 2, #3242

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

We are taught from an early age to say "I'm sorry." We may not initially understand what we are saying or the need for this expression. However, in these two programs, Brenda Spina and Paul Cameron discuss examples from Scripture that help us understand the importance of, the sides of, and the blessings of saying "I'm sorry."

Dealing With Disappointment #2 of 2, #3150

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

In this two part series, Lynda Savage reviews steps to help yourself when feeling disappointed. The why of allowing yourself, including the physical aspects of your body, time to "settle down" is included in this discussion.

Dealing With Disappointment #1of 2, #3149

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

In this two part series, Lynda Savage reviews steps to help yourself when feeling disappointed. The why of allowing yourself, including the physical aspects of your body, time to "settle down" is included in this discussion.

Confrontation #3 of 3, #3068

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

However we picture confrontation, it really is an act of love. These programs cover a series of questions one can use in the preparation for confrontation as well as take a look at God's plan for the result in His confronting each of us.

Confrontation #2 of 3, #3067

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

The word confrontation can conjure up many different pictures in people's imagination. These programs cover a series of questions one can use in the preparation for confrontation as well as take a look at God's plan for the result in His confronting each of us.

Confrontation #1 of 3, #3066

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

The word confrontation can conjure up many different pictures in people's imagination. These programs cover a series of questions one can use in the preparation for confrontation as well as take a look at God's plan for the result in His confronting each of us.

Humor and Humiliation #2 of 2, #3060

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Humor and Humiliation- These programs take a look at how God views people who engage in this type of behavior. It also includes suggestions for those who may find themselves the brunt of this kind of humor.

Humor and Humiliation #1 of 2, #3059

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Humor coupled with humiliation is one of the most accepted ways of having fun in today's world. When humor and humiliation are coupled together the result is a tearing down of the receiver.

Releasing Others - Canceling The Debt #2 of 2, #2214

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

This program discusses the three aspects of forgiveness and canceling the debt.

Releasing Others - Releasing Others #1 of 2, #2213

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

When we forigve, it is God's way of helping us to become free as well as allowing God to work on the person. If we don't forgive, we stay stuck.

The Silent Treatment #3116

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

When people use emotional cut-off with each other, it is the beginning of the end of a relationships unless a reversal of this pattern is sought and practiced. Lynda and Paul discuss the ins and outs of "The Silent Treatment".

Forgive For Good #3 of 3, #3076

Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC

Forgiving for good begins within ourselves. Metaphorically this process reveals how God forgives each one of us.

Forgive For Good #2 of 3, #3075

Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC

Through the story of the Prodigal Son, you will see forgiveness towards others happens within ourselves. This process is a metaphor for how God forgives each of us.

Forgive For Good #1 of 3, #3074

Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC

Using the story of the Prodigal Son, qualities of each character with in the story are explored.

Handling Criticism #3071

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Sometimes criticism is helpful. Sometimes it is not. This program offers tips for handling criticism when it hurts and when it helps.

Good Words - Bad Words- How To Respond To Bad Words, #2155

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Nicknames, untrue statements, unfair labels imprint us, much like an object in playdough. This program aids in identifying our imprints as well as ways to resist those which are harmful. It is these things that lock out the truth of God's Word about who we are.

Great Love Equals Great Responsibility #5 of 5, #3031

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

The last in a series of five programs regarding responsibility in relationships, a look is taken at the reality that certain aspects of the relationship may not change.

Great Love Equals Great Responsibility #4 of 5, #3030

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

A continuation of the seven implications regarding our responsibility in relationships

Great Love Equals Great Responsibility #3 of 5, #3029

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Blame can be destructive to any relationship. Seeing ourselves and others as God sees us is important in providing unity of purpose as well as avoiding division in the family of God.

Great Love Equals Great Responsibility #2 of 5, #3028

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Based on Philippians 2 this program takes a look at ways to be responsible for our own part in relationships and become more like Christ.

Consequences of Comparing #2 of 2, #3023

Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC

What happens to relationships when we compare ourselves to each other? Comparing blocks our loving connections to each other. Also discussed are ways to combat this divisive behavior pattern.

Consequences of Comparing #1 of 2, #3022

Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC

What happens to relationships when we compare ourselves to each other? Comparing blocks our loving connections to each other. Also discussed are ways to combat this divisive behavior pattern.

Living Peaceably #2 of 2, #3013

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Living peaceably may not mean finding solutions as much as managing differences that exist between two people.

Living Peaceably #1 of 2, #3009

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Living peaceably may not mean finding solutions as much as managing the differences that are between two people.

But I'm The Nice One #2 of 2, #2350

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Being nice and acting nice are two different things. Being nice, at times, means being honest. Have you ever wondered what may happen when the nice one and the honest one connect?

But I'm The Nice One #1 of 2, #2349

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

As you may know, there is a big difference between acting nice and being nice. Is it all an act? The nurturance of honesty in our inward parts with God's help is what will help us know.

There's A Tyrant In The House #2 of 2, #2348

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Conflict, although a natural part of intimate relationships, is not always easy to make sense of. The parts of our personality that come out when we are angry or tired need help and care. Listen as these helps are discussed.

There's A Tyrant In The House #1 of 2, #2347

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Conflict is not something easily understood yet is a natural part of our intimate relationships. Lynda and Brenda discuss the parts of our personality that come out when we're angry and tired. Specific helps are provided in learning to deal with these parts of our personality.

When Couples Fight #3 of 3, #2335

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

As you may know, negotiating contract with each other is not always a peaceful process. Whether it is overtly or covertly arguing, we tend to diminish one another. Finding Courage with the help of God to change the fighting cycle is crucial. God uses our arguments with others to change and grow us up.

When Couples Fight #2 of 3, #2334

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

As you may know, negotiating contracts with each other is not always a peaceful process. Disagreements, whether overt or covert, can end up in diminishment of one another. Finding courage with the help of God to change the fighting cycle is crucial. God uses our arguments with others to change and grow us up.

When Couples Fight #1 of 3, #2333

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

As you may know, negotiating contracts with each other is not always a peaceful process. Whether we fight overly or covertly the tendency is to diminish one another. Finding courage with the help of God to change the fighting cycle is crucial. God uses our arguments with others to change and grow us up.

Why Women Crash & Men Get Frustrated #3 of 4, #2301

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Ever get to the end of your "emotional rope"? Discussed here are some of the dynamics that happen when women continue to be physically and emotionally overwhelmed.

Why Women Crash & Men Get Frustrated #2 of 3, #2300

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Ever get to the end of your "emotional rope"? Discussed here are some of the dynamics of what happens when women continue to be physically and emotionally overwhelmed.

Why Men Pull Away #4 of 4, #2298

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

The age old discussion of gender differences rises once again. Lynda and Paul wrap up the series discussing possible triggers as to why men pull away from women.

Why Men Pull Away #3 of 4, #2297

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

The age old discussion of gender differences rises once again. Discussed are the differences in needs for communication and possible triggers that cause men to pull away.

Why Men Pull Away #2 of 4, #2296

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

The age old discussion of gender differences arises once again. The differences in needs regarding communication is discussed along with possible factors that trigger men pulling away from women.

Boundaries: Murder By Mouth #2 of 2, #2281

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Gossip can be destructive to any relationship and the trust needed to maintain a sense of connectedness. This program takes a look at gossip, its impact on the victim of gossip both at work and at home.

False Assumptions: Love Knots #2 of 4, #1069

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Discussion of the love knots caused by subconscious assumptions continues. Specific love knots are presented.

The Need To Win: God's Way #4 of 4, #698

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Discouraged about your own competitiveness? Tune in and be encouraged! God has your best in mind.

The Need To Win: God Overcomes It #3 of 4, #697

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Scripture outlines practical ways in which we can overcome the inner battles that keep us locked into the need to win.

The Need To Win: What's It About? #2 of 4, #696

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

As we continue discussion, we discover underlying fears and assumptions that inhibit the resolution of conflict.

The Need To Win: A Look at Winning #1 of 4, #695

Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC

How do you feel when you think you might lose a fight? Join us as we take a look at our 'need' to win.

Learning How To Fight Fair #4 or 4, #692

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Let's take a look at understanding the reason why you are fighting and how does fighting fit in?

Learning How To Fight Fair, #3 of 4, #691

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

A key to healthy conflict is taking responsibility for yourself, how you feel, how you think, and your ideas.

Learning How To Fight Fair #2 of 4, #690

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

Yes, conflict does not have to end up abusive. Discussed today is setting a goal to find a solution.

Double Binds: Telling Others #612

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

The importance of expression of experience and feelings in these situations.

Agreeing to Disagree #572

Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC

This program reminds us that each individual does not have the entire picture of a situation and how this needs to be remembered during a discussion.