Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries
Telling all.
Talking at an intimate level on the first meeting.
Falling in love with a new acquaintance.
Falling in love with anyone who reaches out.
Being overwhelmed by a person - preoccupied.
Acting on first sexual impulse.
Being sexual for a partner, not yourself.
Going against personal values or rights to please others.
Not noticing when someone else displays inappropriate boundaries.
Not noticing when someone invades your boundaries.
Accepting food, gifts, touch, sex that you don't want.
Touching a person without asking.
Taking as much as you can get for the sake of getting.
Giving as much as you can give for the sake of giving.
Allowing someone to take as much as they can from you.
Letting others direct your life.
Letting others define you.
Letting others describe your reality.
Believing others can anticipate your needs.
Expecting others to fill your needs automatically.
Falling apart so someone will take care of you.
Self abuse.
Sexual and physical abuse.
Food abuse.
For additional reading, consider these books:
Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend; Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes When to Say No To Take Control of your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend; Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend; Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children: Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents by Allison Bottke; Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No by Dr. John Townsend; Boundaries with Kids Workbook by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend; Angry Men and the Women who Love Them by Paul Hegstrom; Married But Not Engaged by Paul and Sandy Coughlin
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