But I'm The Nice One!

  • Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
  • Series: Dear Rosa

People hide anger from themselves.  They do this because they’ve learned to believe that only nice, hard-working, focused (unknowingly usually stubborn) people are “good.”  Being unaware of being angry does not mean that one is not angry. It is the anger unaware which can do most the most damage.  It damages you and your relationships with other people. Since anger does get expressed, but in inappropriate ways, it’s like water in a blocked drain dripping and seeping into areas that eventually weaken, collapse, and may even rot support systems.