Apology Rejected?

  • Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
  • Series: Dear Rosa

Have you ever suffered because you have become aware that some close person in your life has not forgiven you? When our actions or inactions have harmed another person, usually a close friend or relative, we may literally suffer if they do not forgive us after our apology. The literal suffering comes in the form of rejection. Perhaps we have rejected them whether meaning to or not, then they, in retaliation, have rejected us. Research tells us that the loss found in rejection causes reactions in the brain similar to physical pain. Most times this can be resolved by, in your apology, letting the other person know that you “get” how they felt as well as how they were impacted by your actions