Affairs Don't Solve the Problem

  • Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
  • Series: Dear Rosa

If you are having an affair and want your marriage, you will need to end your affair. People often look outside the marriage to avoid a personal look at why they chose their spouse in the first place. Very simply put (and not all there is to it) that is; to complete an empty part of themselves. As a marriage matures, it becomes clear that you cannot complete yourself with another's real or imagined attributes. As I do marital therapy complicated by an affair, hope is essential. When responsible changes for personal choice and development are seen and made by each person in the marriage, hope increases.