Anger
Articles
Anger, The "A" Word
Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Anger is a word that creates great discomfort for many people. However, there are many reasons why anger can be a positive contribution to any relationships
Deprivation and Anger
Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Feelings of anger often cover many different primary emotions: hurt, confusion, fear, and rejection. Deprivation, often based in fear, is a part of life. Placing our confidence in the Lord's availability may not reduce deprivation but can help increase our ability to be comforted.
Learning to Fight Fair
Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC
All of us have times when we disagree or fight and fight dirty. There are helpful guidelines to fighting fair. They may be ideal but these guidelines promote the best possible atmosphere for you and for your loved ones.
What's Behind That Anger?
Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Anger is a complex emotion and uncomfortable for many. Since anger is often a secondary emotion, one is benefited by identifying the primary emotion anger covers. Along with this are the possible thoughts and demands that feed the anger.
Blame A Block to Healing
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Life hurts sometimes. With the hurt we can look for a person to blame. When we project blame toward others we are really saying they are responsible for our failures. If others are responsible for our failures, do they then get credit for our success? Find ways in this article to combat the temptation to blame.
A Story of Getting Honest
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Being honest with yourself is the first step and straightest line to mental and spiritual health. This is a story about someone struggling with what the “supposed to†form of living produces, and applies to anyone who hides difficult feelings from themselves.
Moving From Shame To Respect
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Moving away from a sense of shame to self respect is very important to our mental and even physical health. Shame means to operate out of a "down deep" sense of not being good enough or that something is very wrong with us. This article gives great guidelines for healthy ways that combat a shame based way of living.
Using Mindfulness to Keep Relationships Healthy
Insights and tips are provided on how use mindfulness to be attentive to others feelings, as well as your own, in everyday experiences, to help strengthen your relationship.
Christmas Shocking
Christmas this year may not happen as you picture it. When things do not go as planned, you may experience Christmas culture shock.
Tips for Talking About Finances
Talking about money can lead to conflict, but research shows that having a plan on how to handle disagreements leads to happier marriages. This article provides some useful tips on handling your differences regarding finances.
To Rescue or Not, That is the Question
Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC
This article explores ways in which parents rescue their adolescent children and ways to weigh the decision whether to act on their behalf.
Rebuilding After the Storm
August 18, 2005. A record breaking day in the history of Wisconsin with 27 confirmed tornadoes in one twenty-four hour period. In one moment, debris was strewn everywhere and the destruction left behind on that day was well into the millions of dollars. Addiction is destructive, like a tornado, and you are left to deal with the aftermath of a person struggling with addiction. Whether the addiction is food, alcohol, drugs, gambling, or pornography, a trail of wreckage is left behind and rebuilding needs to begin.
Working Hard To Be Liked
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
People pleasers work very hard to be liked and crave love and acceptance from others at the cost of their own identity. The real person can become lost in the daze of perceived expectations. But there is good news.
How Can I Help My Child Deal with Bullying?
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Real steps to help and "how to's" to deal with bullying.
Suicide Prevention: Making the Connection
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
Suicide is a very complex subject and is usually not about death at all but rather about wanting to stop the pain. The vast majority of the time, those who are thinking about suicide do give verbal and/ or behavioral warning signs particularly in the last week before the attempt. By knowing the warning signs, loved ones can intervene and provide support. This article lists many verbal and behavioral warning signs of suicide and provides questions to ask if you suspect a loved one may be suicidal.
Broadcasts
Functions of Chronic Anger #1 of 5, #2116
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Anger is frightening for many. Identifying the different styles of anger and how they function in relationships may help demystify the reasoning behind particular types of anger.
Functions of Chronic Anger #2 of 5, #2117
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Discussion continues as to the reasons why people get angry and how to deal with the anger.
Functions of Chronic Anger #3 of 5, #2118
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
There are a variety of ways in which individuals use anger to gain power over others. Listen and hear what behaviors are associated with anger in this type of dynamic.
Functions of Chronic Anger #4 of 5, #2119
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Sometimes in an attempt to gain a feeling of status or position, anger is used. Listen as this need is discussed and how people can respond.
Functions of Chronic Anger #5 of 5, #2120
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Individual are often unconsciously or consciously afraid of losing the relationship they have. Anger may be used as a way of holding the relationship together.
Anger: How To Cope #1 of 5, #3135
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
What is anger? Where does it come from? How can we be gentle with ourselves if we struggle with anger, yet deal with it seriously? What are the ways to allow God to help with anger? How do stress, depression, and anger work together in the body? These questions and answers make up a very interesting five part series on anger featuring Phil Panier and family therapist, Lynda Savage.
Anger: How to Cope #2 of 5, #3136
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
What is anger? Where does it come from? How can we be gentle with ourselves if we struggle with anger, yet deal with it seriously? What are the ways to allow God to help with anger? How do stress, depression, and anger work together in the body? These questions and answers make up a very interesting five part series on anger.
Anger: How to Cope #3 of 5, #3137
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
What is anger? Where does it come from? How can we be gentle with ourselves if we struggle with anger, yet deal with it seriously? What are the ways to allow God to help with anger? How do stress, depression, and anger work together in the body? These questions and answers make up a very interesting five part series on anger.
Anger: How to Cope #4 of 5, #3138
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
A five part series focusing on questions and answers to the common emotion of anger. What is anger? Where does it come from? What are the ways to allow God to help with anger? How do stress, depression and anger work together in the body?
Anger: How to Cope #5 of 5, #3139
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
A five part series addressing questions and providing answers regarding the common emotion known as anger.
Anger and Deprivation #2 of 2, #3065
Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Deprivation is unavoidable and anger is normal. On these programs understanding the connection and its impact on our relationship with the Lord and others will be addressed.
What's Behind Anger? #1 of 3, #3172
Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Brenda Spina and Paul Cameron discuss the varied emotions that anger may cover along with core expectations we may be operating out of. These emotions often more accurately express our true experience. Also discussed are the positive aspects of anger, normalizing it's existence as well as pointing out ways anger can be helpful.
What's Behind Anger? #2 of 3, #3173
Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Brenda Spina and Paul Cameron discuss the varied emotions that anger may cover along with core expectations we may be operating out of. These expectations are often not accurate. Also discussed are the positive aspects of anger, normalizing it's existence as well as pointing out ways anger can be helpful.
What's Behind Anger? #3 of 3, #3174
Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Brenda Spina and Paul Cameron discuss the varied emotions that anger may cover along with core expectations we may be operating out of. These expectations often are not accurate. Also discussed the positive aspects of anger, normalizing it's existence as well as pointing out ways anger can be helpful.
The Blame Game #1 of 2, #3189
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Part one of the Blame Game shows how we shrug off responsibilty by using blame. Blaming others or circumstances keeps us bound up to the "wrong" we perceive.
The Blame Game #2 of 2, #3190
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
In part two, stopping blame is the refusal to let yourself complain and find fault. This allows you to have room to seek answers to your situation.
Blame: Stop the Downward Spiral #1 of 2, #3216
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Blame may help your hurting for a short time. However, blame does not address your inward unrest. This program, with Lynda Savage and Paul Cameron, helps the hurt inside when you are tempted to blame.
Blame: Stop the Downward Spiral #2 of 2, #3217
Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
Blame may help your hurting for a short time. However, blame does not address your inward unrest. This program with Lynda Savage and Paul Cameron, helps the hurt inside when you are tempted to blame.
Chronic Disease: From Grief to Hope, #1 of 3, #3293
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
Chronic Disease affects roughly 45% of the total population. Behind this statistic are faces and experiences of real people and their families. In this three part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss five stages of grief people may experience and how family members can help. In part 1 the topic is introduced and the stage of denial is discussed.
Chronic Disease: From Grief to Hope, #2 of 3, #3294
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
Chronic Disease affects roughly 45% of the total population. Behind this statistic are faces and experiences of real people and their families. In this three part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss five stages of grief people may experience and how family members can help. In part 2 the stages of denial, anger, bargaining and depression are discussed.
Chronic Disease: From Grief to Hope, #3 of 3, #3295
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
Chronic Disease affects roughly 45% of the total population. Behind this statistic are faces and experiences of real people and their families. In this three part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss five stages of grief people may experience and how family members can help. In part 3 the stages of depression and acceptance are discussed.
God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #1 of 9, #3305
Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT
Fears around the loss of a personal dream can influence our relationships. This program will explore how unspoken inner hopes and dreams can cause conflict in relationships, and how Christ can help us verbalize dreams to self and others.
God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #2 of 9, #3306
Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT
Conflict and challenges in relationships were part of Jesus’ walk on earth, just as they are part of our earthly walk. This program will explore how Jesus, Lazarus, and Mary and Martha effectively walked through conflict with one another to a place of love and understanding.
God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #3 of 9, #3307
Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT
This program further explores, through study of the story of Jesus raising Lazarus from the dead (John 11), healthy principles of relating to others in challenging times.
God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #4 of 9, #3308
Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT
When conflict occurs in a relationship, we can learn to draw from God’s agape love, rather than from our own human love. Through a story of a boy and a horse, this program explores how the principle of abiding in Christ can both help us love others, and also give us wisdom with appropriate boundaries with others.
God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #5 of 9, #3309
Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT
Challenges in relationships can include others failing us or disappointing us, even in times of our greatest need. This program gives examples of how Christ drew upon God the Father’s love and sovereignty, and His sovereignty in the terrorist attack on the United States, September 11, 2001.
God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #6 of 9, #3310
Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT
This program explores the concept of Godly boundaries in conflictual relationships, and touches on the topic of abuse.
God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #7 of 9, #3311
Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT
Program explores forgiveness: what it is and what it isn’t. The story of Corrie Ten Boom forgiving one of her captors from a Nazi concentration camp further illustrates key principles around forgiveness.
God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #8 of 9, #3312
Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT
Program looks at the benefits of forgiveness, including spiritual freedom and hope for the future. Mary Lambrecht shares a personal story of forgiveness and a short testimony of her brother’s salvation in Christ, shortly before he died of AIDS in 1991.
God's Fearless Love For Challenging Relationships, #9 of 9, #3313
Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT
This program is a conversational wrap-up between Lynda Savage and Mary Lambrecht of the series: God’s Fearless Love for Challenging Relationships. It reviews main concepts around challenging relationships: unspoken dreams, communication with challenging individuals, abiding in Christ, Biblical relational models for challenging relationships, and how forgiveness is important.
Honey, are you doing that to bug me? #1 of 5, #3334
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
We sometimes think that our spouses do things just to bug us, when it is really how they are hard wired. In this series Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss some of the more common ways that spouses may be hard wired differently.
Honey, are you doing that to bug me? #2 of 5, #3335
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
We sometimes think that our spouses do things just to bug us, when it is really how they are hard wired. In this series Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss some of the more common ways that spouses may be hard wired differently.
Honey, are you doing that to bug me? #3 of 5, #3336
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
We sometimes think that our spouses do things just to bug us, when it is really how they are hard wired. In this series Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss some of the more common ways that spouses may be hard wired differently.
Honey, are you doing that to bug me? #4 of 5, #3337
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
We sometimes think that our spouses do things just to bug us, when it is really how they are hard wired. In this series Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss some of the more common ways that spouses may be hard wired differently.
Honey, are you doing that to bug me? #5 of 5, #3338
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
We sometimes think that our spouses do things just to bug us, when it is really how they are hard wired. In this series Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss some of the more common ways that spouses may be hard wired differently.
Working Hard To Be Liked, #1 of 3, #3344
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
People pleasers work very hard to be liked and crave love and acceptance from others at the cost of their own identity. The real person can become lost in the daze of perceived expectations. In this series of radio programs, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss the need to please and provide practical suggestions on breaking the habit of people pleasing.
Working Hard To Be Liked, #2 of 3, #3345
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
People pleasers work very hard to be liked and crave love and acceptance from others at the cost of their own identity. The real person can become lost in the daze of perceived expectations. In this series of radio programs, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss the need to please and provide practical suggestions on breaking the habit of people pleasing.
Working Hard To Be Liked, #3 of 3, #3346
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
People pleasers work very hard to be liked and crave love and acceptance from others at the cost of their own identity. The real person can become lost in the daze of perceived expectations. In this series of radio programs, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss the need to please and provide practical suggestions on breaking the habit of people pleasing.
Standing Up For Yourself While Honoring Others, #1 of 4, #3347
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
Conflict can serve to deepen and strengthen relationships when handled well. In this four part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss important principles in handling conflict and standing up for yourself that can lead to deeper and more satisfying relationships.
Standing Up For Yourself While Honoring Others, #2 of 4, #3348
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
Conflict can serve to deepen and strengthen relationships when handled well. In this four part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss important principles in handling conflict and standing up for yourself that can lead to deeper and more satisfying relationships.
Standing Up For Yourself While Honoring Others, #3 of 4, #3349
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
Conflict can serve to deepen and strengthen relationships when handled well. In this four part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss important principles in handling conflict and standing up for yourself that can lead to deeper and more satisfying relationships.
Standing Up For Yourself While Honoring Others, #4 of 4, #3350
Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW
Conflict can serve to deepen and strengthen relationships when handled well. In this four part series, Christine Vander Wielen and Lynda Savage discuss important principles in handling conflict and standing up for yourself that can lead to deeper and more satisfying relationships.
