http://pfl.org Practical Family Living Podcasts en Practical Family Living Podcasts Practical Family Living no Practical Family Living info@pfl.org ℗ & © 2008 Practical Family Living 720 Maturity takes time to develop in all of us. Obvious, I know, however we can identify particular attitudes and behaviors that help us identify how we are progressing in our walk with the Lord and with others. http://pfl.org/article/growing-up-in-christ Mon, 18 Aug 2008 07:56:51 CDT Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Maturity takes time to develop in all of us. Obvious, I know, however we can identify particular attitudes and behaviors that help us identify how we are progressing in our walk with the Lord and with others. growing_up,godliness,faith,kindness,maturity There are ways of thinking and acting that seem right only to discover they have detoured us off the path of right relating. God has it in his plan for us to become aware and work towards resolution those patterns that keep us from relating to others in a manner pleasing to Him. http://pfl.org/article/detours-in-relationships Mon, 11 Aug 2008 13:04:36 CDT Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC There are ways of thinking and acting that seem right only to discover they have detoured us off the path of right relating. God has it in his plan for us to become aware and work towards resolution those patterns that keep us from relating to others ... affairs,divorce,friendship,singleness,marriage,family,conflict,loss,addiction Every parent seeks to passon their faith. Taking a look at one example in scripture, we see how the everyday patterns of life provide a foundation in which a child may learn the reality of God's presence and decide for him/herself to believe in God http://pfl.org/article/parents-modeling-faith Wed, 06 Aug 2008 09:11:56 CDT Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Fall 2007 Volume 14, Issue 3 parenting,adolescents,teaching_values,faith_in_god,children This article helps the reader make decisions about when it is important to act on Jesus' call and to be open to His timing. http://pfl.org/article/answering-jesus-call Tue, 29 Jul 2008 19:50:03 CDT Whitney Stager, M.S. Summer 2008 Volume 15, Issue 3 god's_will,priorities,god's_call,obedience,listening,family Making decisions, fom the simple to the complex, is something we do every day all day long. Someone said we are our choices. God is good, He wants the best for us, and God is sovereign. If we ask, the Holy Spirit sheds light on our path so we may step in the best direction. http://pfl.org/article/the-helper-and-the-light Wed, 16 Jul 2008 20:24:09 CDT Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Summer 2008 Volume 15, Issue 3 holy_spirit,choices,direction,decision_making,decisions,light,reading_the_bible,crooked_paths,steps,walking An introduction of Derreka Walton, the newest clinical therapist and member of Practical Family Living, and The Center for Family Healing team http://pfl.org/article/hello-how-can-i-help Mon, 14 Jul 2008 17:16:39 CDT Derreka Walton, M.S.E. Summer 2008 Volume 15, Issue 3 therapist Each year many people are diagnosed with having a chronic disease. This article discusses some of the common grief reactions patients may have when first diagnosed. http://pfl.org/article/chronic-disease-a-life-altering-condition Mon, 14 Jul 2008 16:19:51 CDT Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW Summer 2008 Volume 15, Issue 3 grief,loss,chronic_disease,health Family and individual rituals can look different, but are equally valued by God. Article shows how to bring sensitivity and honor to these rituals, when culture or economic and social status are different between people. http://pfl.org/article/different-culture-equal-honor-viewpoints-on-shame Thu, 03 Jul 2008 16:59:09 CDT Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Summer 2008 Volume 15, Issue 3 stranger.,judgment,discomfort,loneliness,wounds,differences,behaviors,opinions,beliefs,equality,respect,honor,violence,community,poor_working_class,poverty,social_shame,economic_shame,ritual,tradition,shame,economic_culture,... There are three foundational principles that make respect in families happen. Following these principles may be challenging but are also an expression of our commitment to following the examples laid before us by the Lord. In part one, respect is defined and a brief look at grandiosity is taken. http://pfl.org/article/respect-in-families Thu, 03 Jul 2008 16:32:06 CDT Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Summer 2008 Volume 15, Issue 3 serve,humility,selfishness,pride,grandiosity,respect,servant,position,status,families,shame This article describes the difference between validating another person's communication and agreeing with it. Examples are given. http://pfl.org/article/validation-is-not-agreement Thu, 03 Jul 2008 16:40:32 CDT Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC Summer 2008 Volume 15, Issue 3 connecting,discounting,dismissing,emerging_adult,interpreted,loss,conversations,at_odds,agreement,validation Anger is a word that creates great discomfort for many people. However, there are many reasons why anger can be a positive contribution to any relationships http://pfl.org/article/anger-the-a-word Tue, 01 Jul 2008 13:44:58 CDT Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Anger is a word that creates great discomfort for many people. However, there are many reasons why anger can be a positive contribution to any relationships anger,conflict,emotion,grief,relationships Shame is the single most inhibitor to any individual's development of honesty. God's proomise of honesty to us paves the way to our increased ability to relate honestly with Him and with those around us. http://pfl.org/article/shame-vs-honesty Tue, 17 Jun 2008 16:26:41 CDT Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Shame is the single most inhibitor to any individual's development of honesty. God's proomise of honesty to us paves the way to our increased ability to relate honestly with Him and with those around us. shame,honesty,comfort Paul's honesty about his core nature and the working of G od's grace gives each of us hope in our ability to love one another. It is in the acknowledgement of our sin that we become better equipped to love one another. http://pfl.org/article/character-grace-and-relationships Wed, 11 Jun 2008 12:07:24 CDT Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Paul's honesty about his core nature and the working of G od's grace gives each of us hope in our ability to love one another. It is in the acknowledgement of our sin that we become better equipped to love one another. sin,family,marriage,singleness,friendship Children develop their sense of belonging and sense of security from their relationships with their parents. When there is on-going animosity between the parents, it is difficult for children to feel safe and to attach to both parents. http://pfl.org/article/when-parents-fight Tue, 03 Jun 2008 15:45:42 CDT Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW Winter 2008 Volume 15, Issue 1 belonging,relationship,parents,security,marriage,anxiety,depression,conflict_resolution This handout provides a list of specific response one can use when behavior in relationship becomes intrusive or offensive. http://pfl.org/article/suggestions-for-clarity-in-relationships Wed, 28 May 2008 07:47:32 CDT Author Unknown, Edited by Brenda Spina, M.S.,LMFT, LPC This handout provides a list of specific response one can use when behavior in relationship becomes intrusive or offensive. boundaries,shame,relationships,missing,abandonment,giving,receiving,suffering,trust,vulnerable,disagree,agree,personal_contract,recovery,relationship_health,feelings,reality,perception,practical,struggles,living,abusive_... Following guidelines originally written in "How To Grieve" by KAIROS, these steps help the grief stricken person what to remember. Each of these ten statements move the grieving individual towards the strength of God and moving forward into the future with renewed focus. http://pfl.org/article/things-to-remember-when-grieving Tue, 20 May 2008 09:48:30 CDT Compiled by Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Following guidelines originally written in "How To Grieve" by KAIROS, these steps help the grief stricken person what to remember. Each of these ten statements move the grieving individual towards the strength of God and moving forward into ... ministering_comfort,helping,pain,suffering,surviving_a_loss,losing_a_spouse,death_of_a_loved_one,loss,grief Knowing how God sees us and what we have available with Him is important in the developmental process of being His child. What follows are scriptures that identify who we are, what we have, and the things we can do when we believe the truth of His Word. http://pfl.org/article/who-i-am-in-christ Mon, 12 May 2008 18:09:27 CDT Author Unknown, Edited by Brenda Spina, M.S.,LMFT, LPC Knowing how God sees us and what we have available with Him is important in the developmental process of being His child. What follows are scriptures that identify who we are, what we have, and the things we can do when we believe the truth of His Word. self_esteem,confidence,child_of_god,healing,emotional_health,mental_health,beloved,firmly_rooted,redeemed_lives,walking_with_christ The benefits and dangers of the internet are becoming more apparent as time passes. Parents have the increasingly difficult task of protecting their children and adolescents from the dangers. Here you will find some of the common uses of letters and symbols by kids as they communicate with one another. http://pfl.org/article/parents-guide-to-lingo-on-the-internet Mon, 05 May 2008 08:02:57 CDT Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Fall 2007 Volume 14, Issue 3 boundaries,internet_guidelines,protecting_children,parenting,internet Listed are ten simple yet challenging factors to remember when attempting to bring a difficult conversation to a calmer level. Both parties, working in this manner, may be able to move towards increased understanding of one another and look for ways to have both of you to have the things you value respected. http://pfl.org/article/10-tips-for-solving-problems- Thu, 24 Apr 2008 13:35:21 CDT Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Listed are ten simple yet challenging factors to remember when attempting to bring a difficult conversation to a calmer level. Both parties, working in this manner, may be able to move towards increased understanding of one another and look for ... conflict,disagreement,resolution,respect,conversations,sarcasm,eye_contact,resistance,solutions There is tremendous difficulty for parents or spouses when their child or spouse becomes involved in the abuse of drugs, alcohol or addiction of any sort. This handout outlines how to clarify who is responsible for what and provides practical steps in approaching your child or spouse. http://pfl.org/article/donts-for-parents-and-enablers Fri, 11 Apr 2008 21:15:51 CDT Compiled by Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC There is tremendous difficulty for parents or spouses when their child or spouse becomes involved in the abuse of drugs, alcohol or addiction of any sort. This handout outlines how to clarify who is responsible for what and provides practical steps ... drug_abuse,alcohol_abuse,sobriety,confrontation,recovery,boundaries,addiction Adapted from "Ten Ways To Cope With Holiday Grief" by L.B. Schultz, this handout provides information that is both practical and helpful for anyone who experiences renewed grief during the holiday seasons. Grief knows no time frame. Because of that fact, knowing what is normal and helpful may aid in alleviating and normalize the grief responses. http://pfl.org/article/coping-with-holiday-grief Fri, 11 Apr 2008 20:55:05 CDT Compiled by Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Adapted from "Ten Ways To Cope With Holiday Grief" by L.B. Schultz, this handout provides information that is both practical and helpful for anyone who experiences renewed grief during the holiday seasons. Grief knows no time frame. Because ... grief,holiday_grief,coping,loss,phases_of_grief,sadness,anger,guilt,fear Reprinted in part from "Compassionate Friends", Copyright 1980, the death of a child has unique stresses that impact the remaining family members. Guilt, grief, depression, and strained relationships are not unusual. This handout is especially helpful for parents who have had to say good-bye to a child prematurely. http://pfl.org/article/understanding-grief-when-a-child-dies Fri, 11 Apr 2008 21:29:00 CDT Compiled by Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Reprinted in part from "Compassionate Friends", Copyright 1980, the death of a child has unique stresses that impact the remaining family members. Guilt, grief, depression, and strained relationships are not unusual. This handout is ... grief,loss,death_of_a_child,death_of_a_loved_one,losing_a_spouse,surviving_a_loss,suffering,pain,helping,ministering_comfort This article describes the challenges we face when going through difficult life changes. It also gives a way of navigating through that difficult time. http://pfl.org/article/making-your-way-through-transition Thu, 10 Apr 2008 11:20:08 CDT Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC Spring 2008 Volume 15, Issue 2 purpose,peace,heal,restore,trusting,faithfulness,wandering,confusion Fearful situations can leave us feeling vulnerable. Article outlines a specific format of prayers to use when we need God's protection. http://pfl.org/article/prayers-for-gods-protection Wed, 09 Apr 2008 13:19:17 CDT Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Spring 2008 Volume 15, Issue 2 meditation,anxiety,heaven,freedom,distress,stress,god's_will,direct,guard,heavenly_hosts,angels,scripture,god's_word,afraid,fear,prayer,vulnerability,safety,security,protection Insights and tips are provided on how use mindfulness to be attentive to others feelings, as well as your own, in everyday experiences, to help strengthen your relationship. http://pfl.org/article/using-mindfulness-to-keep-relationships-healthy Wed, 09 Apr 2008 13:12:40 CDT Whitney Stager, M.S. Spring 2008 Volume 15, Issue 2 mindfulness,techniques,tips,avoiding_judgment,anger,conflict,relationship_help,attentiveness,feelings The healing process for each one of us requires ownership within ourselves of the behaviors and attitudes that often create our own daily battles. What has been discovered is that fear is often behind those patterns of thinking and acting. Scripture tells us that if we are afflicted we are to pray. Knowing what fears we face help us know where to begin in overcoming those core fears. http://pfl.org/article/affliction-and-fear Tue, 08 Apr 2008 10:56:30 CDT Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Spring 2008 Volume 15, Issue 2 prayer,recovery,healing,suffering,battles,affliction,self-centeredness,selfishness,fear Parenting is hard. Raising children in today's world is a juggling act for most people when trying to do a good job of applying God’s word."Ten Ways…"gives a real map of behavior for parents to follow as they seek to be a good parent. The admonition to "raise up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it" is fleshed out in this article in practical and moment by moment ways. http://pfl.org/article/ten-ways-to-train-up-a-child Tue, 08 Apr 2008 23:59:37 CDT Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Spring 2008 Volume 15, Issue 2 confidence,parenting,prayer,frustration,words,unglued,fear,triggers,whiney,crying,school,responsibility,media,kids,future,consumerism,sarcasm,violence,free_play,follow_through,hotspots,know_your_hotspots,families,goals,... Although sibling rivalry exists in virtually every family, parents can be proactive in helping to minimize sibling rivalry and helping children develop positive life long relationships with their siblings. http://pfl.org/article/a-parents-guide-to-minimizing-sibling-rivalry Mon, 07 Apr 2008 10:57:03 CDT Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW Spring 2008 Volume 15, Issue 2 siblings,conflict,relationships,boundaries School phobia, a severe stress response toward school is a very perplexing condition. Suddenly a child simply will not go to school and becomes unusually forceful in their not wanting to go into the school routine. Unusual crying, sitting down, not moving, screaming, running away from the parent, refusal to leave the car to go into the school, are some of the symptoms in this condition. This article gives a thorough overview of the condition and ideas of what to do with school phobia. http://pfl.org/article/my-child-wont-go-to-school Sat, 05 Apr 2008 20:18:26 CDT Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC School phobia, a severe stress response toward school is a very perplexing condition. Suddenly a child simply will not go to school and becomes unusually forceful in their not wanting to go into the school routine. Unusual crying, sitting down, not ... school_phobia,fear,anxiety,stressors,stress,stress_response,afraid,home,counseling,daily_functioning,events,school,school_personnel,administrators,school_psychologist,comfort,safety,therapist,sensitive_children,psychiatrist,... Our hearts go out to those who have just experienced loss. What can we say to them? This article explains the importance of words to the grieving person and gives five great ideas of what is helpful to share. http://pfl.org/article/words-when-it-matters Sun, 02 Mar 2008 11:25:44 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Our hearts go out to those who have just experienced loss. What can we say to them? This article explains the importance of words to the grieving person and gives five great ideas of what is helpful to share. loss,expression_of_comfort,comfort,sorrowing,life,death,grief,loss,shocked,overwhelmed,murder,touched,heart,healing,friend,note,letter,expression,writing,expression_of_love,love A look at the effects of divorce on adults and children and how to cope. This includes five very straightforward supportive directions for the adult raising kids after the divorce. http://pfl.org/article/family-and-self-care-after-divorce Sat, 01 Mar 2008 16:46:58 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC A look at the effects of divorce on adults and children and how to cope. This includes five very straightforward supportive directions for the adult raising kids after the divorce. prayer,pressure,blessing,pain,outsider,influence,success,failure,luxury,fault,feelings,future,special_care,courage,adult_responsibility,supportive,positive,shame,divorces The process of forgiveness, tips on inviting Jesus into the journey of forgiveness, as well as the forgiveness of self and others are discussed in this article. http://pfl.org/article/forgiveness-in-the-new-year Thu, 28 Feb 2008 17:53:24 CST Whitney Stager, M.S. Winter 2008 Volume 15, Issue 1 love,emotions,healing,peace,healing,justice,forgiveness Surrender is a process in which we accept the way things are. http://pfl.org/article/surrender Tue, 26 Feb 2008 10:35:26 CST Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC Winter 2008 Volume 15, Issue 1 serenity,accept,letting_go,release,flesh,new,redeeming The story you tell yourself and others of your difficult situation is important. It is important because the potential for going on in a capable manner after personal pain can be determined by how we frame the experience. Though it is important to tell the exact nature of the experience, including hope in one’s thoughts and expression after a trauma is a survival tool. This article explains how to be honest about difficult times yet cling to hope. http://pfl.org/article/how-to-move-ahead-after-personal-pain Tue, 26 Feb 2008 10:36:06 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Winter 2008 Volume 15, Issue 1 despair,optimism,pessimism,hope,honesty,surviving,outcome Discouragement can leave us frightened and unmotivated with feelings of loneliness and hopelessness. Drawing from the biblical story of Elijah and an actual family therapy case, this article discusses five steps to helping an individual recover from discouragement. http://pfl.org/article/helping-the-discouraged Tue, 26 Feb 2008 13:24:48 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Winter 2008 Volume 15, Issue 1 discouragement,fear,loneliness,elijah,touch,care,empathy,nurturence,encouragement,hope,timing,challenge,love,listen,validate,judgement,god's_presence,powerful,powerless,feelings,strength,emotions,behavior,voice,compassion,solution All of us lose track of doing the basics things we need to do in order to stay "in a good place" physically, emotionally and spiritually. Holiday times and special occasions are times we feel especially stressed. Listed in this article are ways in which we can replenish our spirits as well as our bodies. http://pfl.org/article/replenishing-on-busy-days Sat, 23 Feb 2008 10:47:02 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Christmas 2007 Volume 14, Issue 4 stress,depleted,anxiety,depression,restore,replenish,renew_the_spirit Meeting the challenge of any new year keeps us mindful of how we have opportunity to be all that God would have us be. A personal look into the life of one serving in the face of loss is described beautifully and challenges us to look at those around us in a new way. http://pfl.org/article/serve-your-generation Sat, 23 Feb 2008 10:35:49 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Winter 2008 Volume 15, Issue 1 mercy,compassion,serving,healing,recovery,loss,grief,death_of_a_loved_one Trauma causes a reaction in people. That reaction is physical because the brain is signaling the body to do something. This is true with natural disasters like floods and tornadoes as well as fighting or past trauma in relationships. What this feels like and how this affects a marital relationship is discussed in this article as well as the beginnings of what to do. http://pfl.org/article/trauma-happens-to-competent-healthy-people Sat, 23 Feb 2008 11:35:01 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Spring 2007 Volume 14, Issue 1 vigilant,hyper,fighting,normal,signals,warning,body_reaction,reaction,reactive,brain,brain_functioning,relationship,marriage,trauma A "Dear Rosa" question and answer regarding concern about receiving help, the resistance involved and setting goals. http://pfl.org/article/lack-of-progress-in-counseling Thu, 21 Feb 2008 14:17:12 CDT Dear Rosa receiving_help,setting_goals,counseling,dear_rosa A "Dear Rosa" question and answer regarding the process of breaking free from addictive patterns in relationships http://pfl.org/article/addictive-patterns-and-relationships Thu, 21 Feb 2008 14:09:23 CDT Dear Rosa recovery,patterns_of_behavior,addictive_relationships,dear_rosa A "Dear Rosa" question and answer about surviving the discovery of an affair by ones spouse http://pfl.org/article/an-affair-the-anguish-of-betrayal Thu, 21 Feb 2008 14:11:45 CDT Dear Rosa betrayal,affair,dear_rosa A "Dear Rosa" question and answer regarding the shamed based communication and its impact on family members. http://pfl.org/article/mocking-in-families Thu, 21 Feb 2008 14:14:13 CDT Dear Rosa tearing_down,shaming_communication,mocking,dear_rosa A "Dear Rosa" question and answer regarding depression that is often triggered during the Christmas season. http://pfl.org/article/depression-at-christmas Thu, 21 Feb 2008 14:16:23 CDT Dear Rosa A "Dear Rosa" question and answer expressing the anger and hurt one can feel during a divorce in the face of some Christians http://pfl.org/article/grieving-another-divorce Thu, 21 Feb 2008 14:15:05 CDT Dear Rosa dear_rosa,divorce,angry,grief A "Dear Rosa" question and answer regarding parenting concerns when a adolescent daughter connects with friends that seem unhealthy for her. http://pfl.org/article/scared-of-my-daughters-friends Wed, 20 Feb 2008 14:25:34 CDT Dear Rosa poor_choices,reconnecting_with_children,boundaries,friends_of_your_children,daughter,adolescents After the death of a loved one, various holidays are difficult, especially Christmas. Here are specific ideas for moving through any holiday with gentleness toward yourself and your situation. http://pfl.org/article/taking-care-of-yourself-over-holidays-after-a-loss Mon, 04 Feb 2008 11:08:39 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC After the death of a loved one, various holidays are difficult, especially Christmas. Here are specific ideas for moving through any holiday with gentleness toward yourself and your situation. death,loved_ones,choices,feelings,children,family_members_grief,grief,cards,joy,sorrow,coping,expectations,play,comfort,plan Moving away from a sense of shame to self respect is very important to our mental and even physical health. Shame means to operate out of a "down deep" sense of not being good enough or that something is very wrong with us. This article gives great guidelines for healthy ways that combat a shame based way of living. http://pfl.org/article/moving-from-shame-to-respect Mon, 04 Feb 2008 11:08:23 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Moving away from a sense of shame to self respect is very important to our mental and even physical health. Shame means to operate out of a "down deep" sense of not being good enough or that something is very wrong with us. This article ... personal_growth,mental_health,abusive_behaviors,living,struggles,practical,perception,reality,feelings,relationship_health,recovery,personal_contract,agree,disagree,vulnerable,trust,suffering,receiving,giving,abandonment,missing,... Martha and Phil are like many couples who feel confused as to why their relationship is not better than it is. Read on as you discover some core shifts in behavior and thought that will help increase their ability to relate intimately and honestly. http://pfl.org/article/martha-and-phil Sun, 03 Feb 2008 11:09:39 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Martha and Phil are like many couples who feel confused as to why their relationship is not better than it is. Read on as you discover some core shifts in behavior and thought that will help increase their ability to relate intimately and honestly. conflict,assumptions,core_beliefs,wants,needs,asking_for_what_you_need,honesty,communication A lively imaginary interaction of the biblical account of the encounter between Mary, Martha and Jesus just before Lazareth is raised from the dead. http://pfl.org/article/if-you-had-been-here Sun, 03 Feb 2008 11:08:58 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC A lively imaginary interaction of the biblical account of the encounter between Mary, Martha and Jesus just before Lazareth is raised from the dead. reject,accept,choice,living,dead_alive,death,life,truth,jesus_is_god,i_am,life,resurrection,overcoming,belief,believe Being honest with yourself is the first step and straightest line to mental and spiritual health. This is a story about someone struggling with what the “supposed to” form of living produces, and applies to anyone who hides difficult feelings from themselves. http://pfl.org/article/a-story-of-getting-honest Sun, 03 Feb 2008 11:09:21 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Being honest with yourself is the first step and straightest line to mental and spiritual health. This is a story about someone struggling with what the “supposed to” form of living produces, and applies to anyone who hides difficult feelings ... sharing,meaningful,going_through,recovery,disappointment,grieving,sadness,anger,blame,displaced_anger,discouragement,sharing_feelings,honesty,honest_feelings Trying to get a grasp on what it means to have a relationship with God. God desires to and pursues each of us to this end. This article includes a thorough outline of what it means to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. http://pfl.org/article/know-god Sun, 03 Feb 2008 11:10:09 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Trying to get a grasp on what it means to have a relationship with God. God desires to and pursues each of us to this end. This article includes a thorough outline of what it means to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. personal_relationship_with_god,salvation,inviting_jesus_in,intimacy_with_god,know_god,knowing_god Male menopause is similar to menopause in women http://pfl.org/article/is-my-husband-in-male-menopause Tue, 15 Jan 2008 13:33:52 CST Daniel Lange, M.S.W., LCSW Male menopause is similar to menopause in women male_menopause,anxiety,fear,depression,sexuality Check list of some signs of unhealthy boundaries http://pfl.org/article/signs-of-unhealthy-boundaries Tue, 15 Jan 2008 12:27:21 CST Check list of some signs of unhealthy boundaries boundaries The positives of letting go and giving over http://pfl.org/article/fear-less-love-more-to-let-go-is-to-love Tue, 15 Jan 2008 12:32:43 CST The positives of letting go and giving over love,boundaries Questions to ask yourself to find out how you are doing http://pfl.org/article/check-list-how-am-i-doing Tue, 15 Jan 2008 12:37:41 CST Questions to ask yourself to find out how you are doing anxiety,fear Memories present a consistent history to what yiou decide is true of you http://pfl.org/article/memories-our-past-our-present-and-our-future Tue, 15 Jan 2008 13:41:24 CST Daniel Lange, M.S.W., LCSW Memories present a consistent history to what yiou decide is true of you memories,family,self-image God's love made personal http://pfl.org/article/because-god-loves-me-1-corinthians-134-8 Tue, 15 Jan 2008 13:05:21 CST God's love made personal love,depression,healing The benefits of open adoption http://pfl.org/article/acknowledging-open-adoption Tue, 15 Jan 2008 13:12:13 CST Daniel Lange, M.S.W., LCSW The benefits of open adoption adoption,grief,loss,identity Working through difficulties in marriage is possible http://pfl.org/article/can-this-marriage-be-saved Tue, 15 Jan 2008 13:20:52 CST Ginny Schroeder Working through difficulties in marriage is possible healing,counseling,marriage The Lord goes ahead of us and protects us from behind http://pfl.org/article/hes-got-your-back Tue, 15 Jan 2008 13:27:48 CST Linda Hillary, MSE, NCC The Lord goes ahead of us and protects us from behind healing,protection Share many blessings with family members instead of strife during the holiday season http://pfl.org/article/taking-out-the-trash-preparation-for-the-holidays Tue, 15 Jan 2008 13:47:22 CST Cheryl Chapin, M.S. Share many blessings with family members instead of strife during the holiday season holidays,family,conflict Behaviors and thoughts that inhibit relationships http://pfl.org/article/behaviors-that-inhibit-clarity-in-relationships Tue, 15 Jan 2008 20:34:33 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC, Welash-Desjardings Behaviors and thoughts that inhibit relationships boundaries,relationships This article explores the drawbacks of "putting the marriage last" in the list of family priorities. http://pfl.org/article/one-of-the-worst-things-parents-do-putting-the-marriage-last Thu, 10 Jan 2008 11:47:41 CST Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC This article explores the drawbacks of "putting the marriage last" in the list of family priorities. marriage,oneness,child-centered,neglect,abuse,burdens,date,counseling This article describes the cost involved when people's hearts are overexposed to traumatic experiences. http://pfl.org/article/overexposure-to-traumatic-events Thu, 10 Jan 2008 12:07:40 CST Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC This article describes the cost involved when people's hearts are overexposed to traumatic experiences. evil,devastation,fragility,overexposure,seduce,violence,extreme,addictions,trust,control This article explores four roadblocks to joy. http://pfl.org/article/roadblocks-to-joy Thu, 10 Jan 2008 12:15:27 CST Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC This article explores four roadblocks to joy. joy,spirit,happiness,growth,lonely,isolation,inventory,need,compartmentalize,belong,exhausted,weary,rest This article describes how easy it is for parents and teens to get into highly charged arguments and what important points to remember in order to resolve the battle. http://pfl.org/article/teens-and-anger Thu, 10 Jan 2008 12:23:47 CST Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC This article describes how easy it is for parents and teens to get into highly charged arguments and what important points to remember in order to resolve the battle. angry,resentment,confusing,signal,understand,listening,feelings This article describes the five steps in the process of reconciliation and focuses in detail on the third step. http://pfl.org/article/the-third-step-in-the-reconciliation-process Thu, 10 Jan 2008 12:30:37 CST Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC This article describes the five steps in the process of reconciliation and focuses in detail on the third step. hurt,anger,offended,reconciliation,repair,injured,forgive This article describes the debilitating effects of secular pity and describes the difference between God's pity and the world's. http://pfl.org/article/two-sides-of-pity Thu, 10 Jan 2008 10:38:26 CST Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC Spring 2007 Volume 14, Issue 1 pity,weakness,victimization,truth,power,saint,hurting Stress does not only affect the person directly in the line of the stressor but also affects those in proximity. This article identifies what secondary stress is and what to do about it. http://pfl.org/article/secondary-stress Mon, 07 Jan 2008 11:11:31 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Stress does not only affect the person directly in the line of the stressor but also affects those in proximity. This article identifies what secondary stress is and what to do about it. prayer_during_stress,praying,listening_to_problems,police_officer,venting,walking,challenges_to_the_body,tics,stressers,stress_chemicals,release_of_stress There are benefits to personal purity beyond what we can fully take in as the world is seeming to celebrate impurity. The many faces of sexual impurity is reviewed here. The harmful effects of sexual sin including entertaining impure thoughts are discussed. This piece contains a good discussion of the harm seemingly harmless speech and innuendo brings. http://pfl.org/article/personal-purity Mon, 07 Jan 2008 11:12:07 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC There are benefits to personal purity beyond what we can fully take in as the world is seeming to celebrate impurity. The many faces of sexual impurity is reviewed here. The harmful effects of sexual sin including entertaining impure thoughts are ... power,worry,fear,temptation,pure,manipulation,personal_purity,crazy_maker,sin,boundaries,sexual_jokes,character,renew,honesty,purity,using_people,sexual_acting_out This article takes a personal look at the author's first encounter with the reality of God and provides helps in remembering one's own history of attachment with God. http://pfl.org/article/when-the-messiah-came Mon, 07 Jan 2008 10:46:44 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Christmas 2007 Volume 14, Issue 4 messiah,christmas,attachment_relationship,touching_god,loving_god,spirituality,connection Hardship is hard. Why does God allow it? As the Potter shapes clay, over and over again, we too are shaped. Often this shaping is a process with several steps. What are these steps and why do they hurt? Sometimes it is for our strengthening and sometimes to deepen us in the ways we were meant to be and want to be. God makes us ready for all His purposes and for life abundantly. http://pfl.org/article/why-does-god-use-hardship Mon, 07 Jan 2008 11:12:36 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Hardship is hard. Why does God allow it? As the Potter shapes clay, over and over again, we too are shaped. Often this shaping is a process with several steps. What are these steps and why do they hurt? Sometimes it is for our strengthening and ... trust,walking,joyful,beauty,process,fire,furnace,fine_tuning,filled,full,flattened._god's_way,washing,water,hardened,hardship,life,purpose,potter,clay,touch,shaped,shaping,shape,health,hurt Each individual has a unique road to follow. This roadway is sometimes foggy to us. If we have gone along the path of trusting God many times, are we likely to continue when our eyes are blocked from what is ahead? See a personal example of a foggy road experience. http://pfl.org/article/traveling-the-road Mon, 07 Jan 2008 11:12:58 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Summer 2007 Volume 14, Issue 2 knowing_god,sense_of_security,destiny,experience,trust,finding_our_way,choices,patterns,memory,blind,seeing,traveling,moving,lost,path,journey Sometimes there is a straight-forward need for some written steps to take when feeling depressed, anxious, crummy, full of discouragement, or when listening to lies in thinking about God's ability to redeem a seemingly failed life. Here are those steps. http://pfl.org/article/guidelines-for-help-when-you-feel-vulnerable-or-lost Mon, 07 Jan 2008 11:13:24 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Sometimes there is a straight-forward need for some written steps to take when feeling depressed, anxious, crummy, full of discouragement, or when listening to lies in thinking about God's ability to redeem a seemingly failed life. Here are those steps. little_by_little,need_a_break,truth,love,eternal_love,hope,beautiful_music,good_touch,healing,cleansing,tired_of_trying,messed_up,broken_heart,real,god's_faithfulness,damaged,down,discouraged,lonely,lost,vulnerable How do we reside in the place of love when we fail in our behavior with others. There are times when each of us engages in bad behavior: Behavior we do not find acceptable to God or ourselves. What do we do when we are wrong in our behavior? This article provides answers; a "how to" in moving from bad behavior to a better "place," a forgiven place, a place of reconciliation with God and ourselves. http://pfl.org/article/clearly-wrong-bad-behavior-and-what-to-do-about-it Mon, 07 Jan 2008 11:10:34 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC How do we reside in the place of love when we fail in our behavior with others. There are times when each of us engages in bad behavior: Behavior we do not find acceptable to God or ourselves. What do we do when we are wrong in our behavior? This ... admitting_wrong,confession,depression,anger,bad_mood,discouragement,decision_to_love,forgiveness,loved_by_god,admit,holy_spirit,1_corinthians_13,love_chapter,mental_health Memories triggered at times of yearly occasions are not always pleasant. How do you deal with triggered memories? Can we move from reacting to certain memories to providing ourselves with a plan? See ways people are able to set in motion a positive chain of memories both personal and spiritual. http://pfl.org/article/gratitude-its-own-memory-chain Mon, 07 Jan 2008 11:14:40 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Memories triggered at times of yearly occasions are not always pleasant. How do you deal with triggered memories? Can we move from reacting to certain memories to providing ourselves with a plan? See ways people are able to set in motion a positive ... healing,wounds,spontaneous,jesus,victory,happy,thankfulness,gratitude,proactive,sad,death,touch,connecting,love,yearly,celebrations,christmas,memories,remembering,change,vision,honesty This article addresses grieving in light of a process of reconciliation instead of a one action decision of acceptance. http://pfl.org/article/grieving-as-an-act-of-reconciliation Tue, 11 Dec 2007 10:37:51 CST Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC This article addresses grieving in light of a process of reconciliation instead of a one action decision of acceptance. grief,loss,reconciliation,reverence,mourning This article looks at the phrase "It's not fair!" when people measure themselves with others and what the outcome is for the individual and relationship. http://pfl.org/article/what-happens-when-we-measure-ourselves-with-each-other Tue, 11 Dec 2007 10:42:04 CST Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC This article looks at the phrase "It's not fair!" when people measure themselves with others and what the outcome is for the individual and relationship. rate,angry,resentful,bitterness,attachment,bonding,fondness,admiration,connection,togetherness,exhausted,commitment This article looks at springtime as a metaphor for hope in the midst of dark periods of life and presents scripture as encouragement. http://pfl.org/article/finding-hope-in-the-dark-periods-of-life Tue, 11 Dec 2007 11:23:24 CST Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC Summer 2007 Volume 14, Issue 2 hope,reap,weary,garden,streams,desert,risen,dead,new,springtime This article explores the abuse of neglect and the confusion that often accompanies it. http://pfl.org/article/neglect-the-obtuse-abuse Tue, 11 Dec 2007 11:20:58 CST Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC This article explores the abuse of neglect and the confusion that often accompanies it. neglect,ignored,dismissed,discounted,mirror,reflect,preoccupied,confused,lonely,loners,connections,tender,suffered,cares This article addresses five strategies for encouraging teenagers to grow beyond their childhood behaviors and expectations. http://pfl.org/article/five-strategies-for-encouraging-teens-to-grow-beyond-childhood Tue, 11 Dec 2007 10:05:47 CST Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC This article addresses five strategies for encouraging teenagers to grow beyond their childhood behaviors and expectations. expectations,effort,resistance,responsibility,tasks,incapable,disrespect,reminding,coaxing,yelling This article addresses the process of how marital disloyalty begins or continues. http://pfl.org/article/marital-disloyalty Tue, 11 Dec 2007 11:09:11 CST Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC This article addresses the process of how marital disloyalty begins or continues. disloyalty,loneliness,boredom,resentment,anger,bitterness,detached,fog,nurture,attachment,choices This article explores the task adolescents and their families face when leaving home. It describes the delicate balance between support and autonomy parents must give their emerging adult. http://pfl.org/article/life-transitions Thu, 06 Dec 2007 10:32:42 CST Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC Fall 2007 Volume 14, Issue 3 close,good-bye,pain,struggle,autonomy,resistance,change,growth,loss,launching,transition This article focuses on the biblical view of our weaknesses. http://pfl.org/article/accepting-our-weaknesses Thu, 06 Dec 2007 11:15:41 CST Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC This article focuses on the biblical view of our weaknesses. limitations,gift,weaknesses,vulnerabilities,guilt,angry,self-acceptance,humility,surrender,grace,inadequate,transform,strength Children walk through the high pain and intense feelings around divorce but they do not have the same ability to recover from the process of their parents' divorce. Research shows that parents seem to take about three years to recover from divorce. This is not true for children. The effects of divorce on children lasts for decades. http://pfl.org/article/children-of-divorce-between-two-worlds Mon, 03 Dec 2007 11:15:42 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Children walk through the high pain and intense feelings around divorce but they do not have the same ability to recover from the process of their parents' divorce. Research shows that parents seem to take about three years to recover from divorce. ... long_term_consequences,impact_of_divorce,healing,pain,hurt,resilience,divorcing_couple,children_of_divorce,divorce Acute stress is the initial concentrated exposure to a traumatic event or events. Acute stressors might be a war, being robbed, experiencing excessive cruelty, a natural disaster, viewing human mutilation, etc. What happens to our bodies in acute stress is that the unexpected events put the body in a type of strain. After being exposed to trauma, the sense of feeling safe is hard to regain. http://pfl.org/article/acute-stress Mon, 03 Dec 2007 11:15:15 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Acute stress is the initial concentrated exposure to a traumatic event or events. Acute stressors might be a war, being robbed, experiencing excessive cruelty, a natural disaster, viewing human mutilation, etc. What happens to our bodies in acute ... change_in_eating_habits.,loss_of_interest,anxiety,mood_swings,hurt,anger,severe_depression,process_of_healing,stabilization,healing_process,debriefing,depression,overwhelmed,excessive_demands,debilitating_shock,suffering,acute_trauma,... This article describes the decisions we all have when entering the holidays. We can choose to stop "the war" in our relationships, to enter a time of peace. http://pfl.org/article/healing-at-christmas Thu, 29 Nov 2007 10:45:41 CST Suzan Myhre, M.S.S.W., LICSW, LPC Christmas 2007 Volume 14, Issue 4 christmas,stress,depression,boundaries,healing Tips on how to incorporate the fruits of the spirit into your daily life to keep you (and your loved ones) healthy and happy. http://pfl.org/article/fruit-of-the-spirit-tips-to-increase-your-daily-servings Tue, 27 Nov 2007 10:05:23 CST Whitney Stager, M.S. Tips on how to incorporate the fruits of the spirit into your daily life to keep you (and your loved ones) healthy and happy. joy,patience,guidelines,tips,actions,resolutions,spirit,ideas,stress,mental_health This article provides many ideas to help you and your family celebrate Advent - with special ways to prepare your hearts and minds for the coming of the Christmas season. http://pfl.org/article/advent-traditions Tue, 27 Nov 2007 10:42:25 CST Whitney Stager, M.S. Christmas 2007 Volume 14, Issue 4 relationships,family,traditions,ideas,tips,celebrate,christmas,advent We can take the pressure off others to change by focusing on our own issues, because the only person we can really change is ourselves. http://pfl.org/article/changing-our-hearts-by-changing-our-minds Tue, 27 Nov 2007 10:31:26 CST Whitney Stager, M.S. We can take the pressure off others to change by focusing on our own issues, because the only person we can really change is ourselves. self,change,relationships,skills,behavior,conflict A story of a family tradition to warm your heart and a reminder that family traditions help build memories that last a lifetime. http://pfl.org/article/just-right-a-christmas-memory Tue, 27 Nov 2007 11:36:40 CST Whitney Stager, M.S. A story of a family tradition to warm your heart and a reminder that family traditions help build memories that last a lifetime. family,memories,christmas,traditions This article provides insight on helping to see God's love for each one of us and gives tools for seeing ourselves in a different way. http://pfl.org/article/recognizing-the-treasure-within-you Tue, 27 Nov 2007 11:25:56 CST Whitney Stager, M.S. Summer 2007 Volume 14, Issue 2 god's_love,self-esteem,self-worth,perspective_-_self_-_love Stress and high expectations of the modern Christmas season are in sharp contrast to the First Christmas http://pfl.org/article/a-true-joy-filled-christmas Tue, 27 Nov 2007 10:43:19 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW Christmas 2007 Volume 14, Issue 4 christmas,stress How to reclaim the Sabbath for your family by learning ways to build in important "down-time" on Sundays as well as increasing famly fun time. http://pfl.org/article/reclaim-the-sabbath Tue, 27 Nov 2007 10:39:42 CST Whitney Stager, M.S. Spring 2007 Volume 14, Issue 1 family_time,family_fun,traditions,sabbath,sunday,activities,weekend,busy,down-time This article lists 15 keys to a successful marriage, including the habit of forgiveness, letting go of mocking and contempt when under duress, and rehearsing the good rather than the “bad” about the other. http://pfl.org/article/attributes-of-a-successful-marriage Mon, 26 Nov 2007 11:16:09 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC This article lists 15 keys to a successful marriage, including the habit of forgiveness, letting go of mocking and contempt when under duress, and rehearsing the good rather than the “bad” about the other. boundaries,truthfulness,understanding,acceptance,differences,sex,money,power,rehearsing_good,respect,believing_the_best,mocking,communication,relationship_skills,apologize,successful_marriage,contempt,commitment,marriage When our personal energy is drained, we are like an empty water jar. Family events and personal challenges will empty our reserves. We must find a way to replenish ourselves. This article gives specific refreshers for the days when we are overwhelmed. http://pfl.org/article/emotional-reserve-and-family-events Sun, 25 Nov 2007 11:14:15 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC When our personal energy is drained, we are like an empty water jar. Family events and personal challenges will empty our reserves. We must find a way to replenish ourselves. This article gives specific refreshers for the days when we are overwhelmed. beginning_again,courage,starting_over,drained,imperfect,emotional,exhausted,giving,overwhelmed,prayer,kind,firm,stress,emotional_reserve,family_stress Life hurts sometimes. With the hurt we can look for a person to blame. When we project blame toward others we are really saying they are responsible for our failures. If others are responsible for our failures, do they then get credit for our success? Find ways in this article to combat the temptation to blame. http://pfl.org/article/blame-a-block-to-healing Sun, 25 Nov 2007 11:16:42 CST Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC Life hurts sometimes. With the hurt we can look for a person to blame. When we project blame toward others we are really saying they are responsible for our failures. If others are responsible for our failures, do they then get credit for our ... prayer,recovery,hurt,failure,murmuring,complain,accountability,personal_responsibility,anger,disappointment,projection,blaming_attitude,blame What forgiveness really is and how relationships can be restored http://pfl.org/article/tearing-down-the-wall-through-forgiveness Mon, 19 Nov 2007 13:06:27 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW What forgiveness really is and how relationships can be restored relationships,conflict,anger,fear,restoration,healing,forgiveness Helpful suggestions and step by step plan to end bullying http://pfl.org/article/how-to-stop-bullying Mon, 19 Nov 2007 10:36:26 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW Summer 2007 Volume 14, Issue 2 parenting,children,adolescents,stress,anxiety,depression,anger,bullying,school_problems,communication,boundaries A vignette portraying a family scapegoat moving from cooperating with the role to rejecting the role http://pfl.org/article/escaping-the-role-of-scapegoat Mon, 19 Nov 2007 10:38:53 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW Spring 2007 Volume 14, Issue 1 family_roles,scapegoat,blaming,loneliness,anger,healing,stress Practical, clear and helpful ideas to keep you focused and positive in the Holiday Season http://pfl.org/article/11-tips-to-help-manage-stress Mon, 19 Nov 2007 12:58:57 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW Practical, clear and helpful ideas to keep you focused and positive in the Holiday Season traditions,family,boundaries,stress,holidays,christmas The powerful impact of family role assignments and assumptions http://pfl.org/article/family-roles-assigned-and-assumed Mon, 19 Nov 2007 12:59:31 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW The powerful impact of family role assignments and assumptions family_roles,crisis,hero,scapegoat,lost_child,mascot,anxiety,depression,addiction Helpful guides to creating a healthy family http://pfl.org/article/characteristics-of-a-healthy-family Mon, 19 Nov 2007 13:00:06 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW Helpful guides to creating a healthy family boundaries,bond,communication,conflict,forgiveness,service,family_relationships Two vignettes demonstrating how to stand up for yourself without putting others down http://pfl.org/article/stand-up-for-yourself-without-putting-others-down Mon, 19 Nov 2007 10:33:09 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW Fall 2007 Volume 14, Issue 3 conflict_resolution A couple's journey from blaming each other to helping each other http://pfl.org/article/marriage-relationships-strengthening-the-bond-thru-gods-love Mon, 19 Nov 2007 13:02:03 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW A couple's journey from blaming each other to helping each other family_roles,marriage,stress,depression,healing,faith The power and influence of parents is great; keeping the parent-child relationship in its proper place http://pfl.org/article/for-shame-for-shame-how-to-end-shaming-when-disciplining Mon, 19 Nov 2007 12:56:10 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW The power and influence of parents is great; keeping the parent-child relationship in its proper place parenting,family,anxiety,depression,anger,conflict,self_esteem,discipline,role,boundaries God's forgiveness is complete. He moves us from shame and guilt to being set free. http://pfl.org/article/gods-forgiveness Mon, 19 Nov 2007 12:56:51 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW God's forgiveness is complete. He moves us from shame and guilt to being set free. forgiveness,depression,anxiety,anger,addictions,healing,recovery Perfectionism is harsh and demanding. However,the Lord does not require it. http://pfl.org/article/perfectionism-a-wolf-in-sheeps-clothing Mon, 19 Nov 2007 13:05:25 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW Perfectionism is harsh and demanding. However,the Lord does not require it. parent,child,relationship,marriage,perfectionism,anxiety,depression,self_esteem,healing,grace Finding balance in life through focusing on the Lord http://pfl.org/article/finding-balance Mon, 19 Nov 2007 13:05:57 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW Finding balance in life through focusing on the Lord healing,restoration,faithful,forgiveness Stress management via lessons learned from young children http://pfl.org/article/stress-management-young-children-can-teach-us-well Mon, 19 Nov 2007 13:04:55 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW Stress management via lessons learned from young children stress,boundaries,thankfulness,forgiveness,healing Addictions cannot satisfy our needs but only serve to destroy joy and peace. God desires more for us! http://pfl.org/article/addictions-many-forms-but-never-satisfying Mon, 19 Nov 2007 13:04:18 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW Addictions cannot satisfy our needs but only serve to destroy joy and peace. God desires more for us! anxiety,addiction,healing,depression Moving account of a young woman who experiences the peace of God in the midst of a personal crisis http://pfl.org/article/gods-peace-in-the-midst-of-a-crisis Mon, 19 Nov 2007 13:03:46 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW Moving account of a young woman who experiences the peace of God in the midst of a personal crisis stress,peace,healing,faith,health,anxiety,anger,fear Moving account of experiencing God's presence in the midst of horrendous suffering http://pfl.org/article/gods-presence-in-the-midst-of-suffering Mon, 19 Nov 2007 13:03:14 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW Moving account of experiencing God's presence in the midst of horrendous suffering healing,hope,suffering,anger,depression,loss,grief,stress A vignette portraying common characteristics of the family hero http://pfl.org/article/overcoming-the-role-of-family-hero Mon, 19 Nov 2007 13:02:44 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW A vignette portraying common characteristics of the family hero parenting,stress,family_roles,hero,depression,anxiety,anger,healing Conflict is normal and full of potential if we manage it skillfully http://pfl.org/article/helpful-guidelines-for-resolving-conflict Mon, 19 Nov 2007 10:49:04 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW Conflict is normal and full of potential if we manage it skillfully conflict_resolution,boundaries,communication,family What family relationships are not about http://pfl.org/article/family-relationships-its-not-about-winning-and-losing Mon, 19 Nov 2007 12:54:29 CST Christine Vander Wielen, M.S.W., CAPSW What family relationships are not about parenting,marriage,conflict,boundaries,power_struggle,family_roles What do the Bethlehem manger and a brother dying of AIDS have in common? Article depicts how life-giving responses in difficult circumstances can bring hope and encouragement. http://pfl.org/article/christmas-inspirations Sat, 17 Nov 2007 16:10:15 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT What do the Bethlehem manger and a brother dying of AIDS have in common? Article depicts how life-giving responses in difficult circumstances can bring hope and encouragement. christmas,ministry,sickness,disease,death,aids,hiv,anxiety,encouragement,hope,difficult_circumstances,singles,homosexuality,grief_and_loss,bereavement,adult_children,creativity,talents,gifts,jesus'_birth,protection,... Childhood story illustrating bonding and attachment wounds and ten steps for healing http://pfl.org/article/attachment-wounds-ten-steps-that-heal Sat, 17 Nov 2007 15:36:12 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Childhood story illustrating bonding and attachment wounds and ten steps for healing comfort,connection,emotions,feelings,family,bereavement,grief_and_loss,trauma,healing,bonding,attachment Illustrates how parents and spouses can use Jesus' words from the Gospel of John for healthy attachment http://pfl.org/article/abundant-attachment-with-god-and-others Sat, 17 Nov 2007 15:54:39 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Illustrates how parents and spouses can use Jesus' words from the Gospel of John for healthy attachment children,marriage,god's_healing_touch,family-of-origin,parenting,attachment,connection,emotional_vulnerability Describes how behaviors and a mindset of peace and rest can bring us closer to God in the Christmas season http://pfl.org/article/a-christmas-sabbath Sat, 17 Nov 2007 16:04:13 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Describes how behaviors and a mindset of peace and rest can bring us closer to God in the Christmas season comfort,hope,christmas,fear,sabbath,rest,peace,anxiety,stress A child's oppostional behavior may indicate emotional pain. Article explores larger perspectives, including need for bonding and healing. http://pfl.org/article/parenting-perspectives-on-behavior-and-bonding Sat, 17 Nov 2007 15:59:24 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT A child's oppostional behavior may indicate emotional pain. Article explores larger perspectives, including need for bonding and healing. discipline,anger,family,healing,bereavement,grief_and_loss,emotional_pain,attachment,bonding,behavior Suggestions on how family members can bring emotional, practical, and spiritual support to older loved ones http://pfl.org/article/elderly-and-families-intergenerational-respect-and-love Sat, 17 Nov 2007 14:30:42 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Suggestions on how family members can bring emotional, practical, and spiritual support to older loved ones belonging,grandparents,healing,grief_and_loss,singles,adult_children,adolescents,children,love,respect,intergenerational,elderly Three steps to finding marital stability in the midst of change http://pfl.org/article/marital-transitions-parting-the-fearful-waters Sat, 17 Nov 2007 10:36:46 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Summer 2007 Volume 14, Issue 2 stress,anxiety,fear,guidance,obedience,battle,transition,fear,dream,change,family Pain and joy often occur together in life. Learn how God's faithfulness, sovereignty, and hope can be found in the midst of brokenness, failure, or other difficult circumstances. http://pfl.org/article/daring-to-laugh-when-celebration-and-sadness-join-hands Sat, 17 Nov 2007 16:22:01 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Pain and joy often occur together in life. Learn how God's faithfulness, sovereignty, and hope can be found in the midst of brokenness, failure, or other difficult circumstances. grief_and_loss,stress,anxiety,struggles,hope,hopelessness,sin,repentance,brokenness,pain,joy,failure,bereavement,encouragement,difficult_circumstances,healing Utilizes truths gleaned from the story of the Good Samaritan to help families cope with traumatic loss. http://pfl.org/article/traumatic-loss-and-uncommon-grace Sat, 17 Nov 2007 16:27:52 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Utilizes truths gleaned from the story of the Good Samaritan to help families cope with traumatic loss. anxiety,depression,stress,trauma,grief_and_loss,suffering,abuse,wounded,mercy,grace,compassion Article depicts, through a teenager's story, how Christ will not delay his provision, safety, strength, and love when we endure trials and suffering. http://pfl.org/article/trusting-god-in-trials-and-sorrow Sat, 17 Nov 2007 17:37:02 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Article depicts, through a teenager's story, how Christ will not delay his provision, safety, strength, and love when we endure trials and suffering. trust,trials,sorrow,provision,safety,strength,god's_love,suffering,children,adolescents,adult_children,family,anxiety,depression,grief_and_loss,stress,conflict,god's_healing_touch,redemption,problems,issues,courage,shame,... Forgiveness brings emotional and spiritual healing. Using Biblical references to Palm Sunday and Easter, and a story from Corrie Ten Boom, this article shows how the old "clothes" or habits around unforgiveness hamper our freedom and joy. http://pfl.org/article/easter-clothes-throwing-off-cloaks-of-unforgiveness Sat, 17 Nov 2007 11:20:15 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Spring 2007 Volume 14, Issue 1 revenge,family_marriage,anxiety,stress,depression,grief_and_loss,death,abuse,german_concentration_camp,jews,corrie_ten_boom,obsessive_thoughts,offense,hatred,anger,comfort,love,resentment,bitterness,sin,sinners,enemies,pain,... Article describes how past generational patterns can influence current family functioning, and how God can equip us in healthy family functioning. http://pfl.org/article/family-systems-and-generational-bondage Sat, 17 Nov 2007 17:53:31 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Article describes how past generational patterns can influence current family functioning, and how God can equip us in healthy family functioning. parenting,children,adolescents,marriage,grief_and_loss,depression,anxiety,stress,anger,conflict,freedom,generational_bondage,healing,postpartum_depression,guilt_abuse,sin,heritage,wounds Change within a family life cycle can bring feelings of grief and loss. Article lists six ways to weather the storms of family changes. http://pfl.org/article/grief-and-changes Sat, 17 Nov 2007 17:58:31 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Change within a family life cycle can bring feelings of grief and loss. Article lists six ways to weather the storms of family changes. marriage,anxiety,depression,grief_and_loss,stress,conflict,healing,birth,newborn,change,transition,adjustment,hope,future,plans,nurturance,thoughts,truth,death,retirement Article describes seven principles to decrease stress through teamwork and delegation in ministry, family, or work-related tasks. http://pfl.org/article/teamwork-in-tasks-and-ministry Sat, 17 Nov 2007 19:34:24 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Article describes seven principles to decrease stress through teamwork and delegation in ministry, family, or work-related tasks. vulnerability,parenting,teamwork,tasks,ministry,marriage,family,anxiety,conflict,feelings,feedback,cooperation,team-building,employment,jobs,corporation,delegation,order,resources,encouragement,balance,boundaries,rest,wisdom,... Article shows how God can encourage and strengthen us when facing fatigue and discouragement in challenging situations. http://pfl.org/article/marching-on Sat, 17 Nov 2007 19:42:20 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Article shows how God can encourage and strengthen us when facing fatigue and discouragement in challenging situations. relationship_building,family,marriage,friendships,mental_health,anxiety,depression,grief_and_loss,stress,challenging_events,affairs,anger,conflict,god's_healing_touch,endurance,resilience,strength,perseverance,weariness,doubt,... Article describes in poetic form how God will dwell with us ande not forsake us in uncertain or tragic times. http://pfl.org/article/lord-emmanuel Sat, 17 Nov 2007 19:47:42 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Article describes in poetic form how God will dwell with us ande not forsake us in uncertain or tragic times. christmas,advent,change,transition,anxiety,depression,stress,conflict,challenging_events,god's_healing_touch,companionship,stability,consistency,hopes,fears,worry,eternity,encouragement Family and the sharing of communion is the backdrop of this article, which explores how to receive life-giving and healing attributes of God during the Christmas season. http://pfl.org/article/bread-of-bethlehem Sat, 17 Nov 2007 10:42:43 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Christmas 2007 Volume 14, Issue 4 family,anxiety,depression,grief_and_loss,stress,conflict,healing,communion,sacrament,eucharist,bethlehem,christmas,fellowship,loneliness,stability,consistency,hope,worry,eternal_life,salvation,forgiveness,life,death,challenging_... Building a child's Christian faith is a foundational piece in "training up a child in the way he should go." (Proverbs 22:6) Article suggests six practical steps in developing home devitions for the elementary age child. http://pfl.org/article/faith-of-our-children-a-model-for-home-devotions Sat, 17 Nov 2007 10:33:30 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Fall 2007 Volume 14, Issue 3 family,bible_study,curriculum,prayer,traditions,rituals,resources,word_of_god,sacraments,communion,faith,devotions Depression can distort and inhibit God's true plan for our lives. Article suggests five steps to bring restorative thinking and behaviors that battle sadness, low self-esteem, and hopelessness. http://pfl.org/article/depression-in-the-soul-five-steps-to-freedom Sat, 17 Nov 2007 17:21:52 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Depression can distort and inhibit God's true plan for our lives. Article suggests five steps to bring restorative thinking and behaviors that battle sadness, low self-esteem, and hopelessness. sadness,worthlessness,self-esteem,mood_disorders,grief_and_loss,hopelessness_hope,freedom,healing,restoration,redemption,sin,bondage,purpose,power,depression Illustrates how Jesus can help families survive and thrive in times of change and transition. http://pfl.org/article/families-and-transition Sat, 17 Nov 2007 16:33:30 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Illustrates how Jesus can help families survive and thrive in times of change and transition. transition,change,stress,grief_and_loss,worry,anxiety,life-cycle_stages Author's experience of a brother dying of AIDS portrays how Christ brings commfort through filling unmet childhood needs. http://pfl.org/article/childlike-needs-in-adult-losses Sat, 17 Nov 2007 16:38:55 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Author's experience of a brother dying of AIDS portrays how Christ brings commfort through filling unmet childhood needs. depression,bereavement,aids,sorrows,desires,longings,affliction,death,disease,hiv,gifts,trauma,suffering,healing,grief_and_loss Article uses an analogy from the Old Testament to teach how Christmas can be an opportunity to turn from fear and sin, to the joy, holiness, and wonder of Christ. http://pfl.org/article/changing-our-christmas-perspectives Sat, 17 Nov 2007 16:43:40 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Article uses an analogy from the Old Testament to teach how Christmas can be an opportunity to turn from fear and sin, to the joy, holiness, and wonder of Christ. sin,fear,eternity,forgiveness,reconciliation,freedom,belonging,god's_love,redemption,sacrifice,recovery,christmas Money, possessions, and success can inhibit our desire to prioritize loving God and one another. Article addresses managing earthly things with eternal treasures. http://pfl.org/article/simplicity-in-a-complex-world Sat, 17 Nov 2007 16:54:43 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Money, possessions, and success can inhibit our desire to prioritize loving God and one another. Article addresses managing earthly things with eternal treasures. money,possessions,success,materialism,consumerism,peace,wealth,accomplishments,status,satisfaction,contentment,fellowship,god's_love,simplicity,anxiety Our lifetime experiences can have positive and negative impacts on us. Narrative Family Therapy can be a tool in allowing Christ's redemptive love, and other positive stories of our lives, to "re-author" our painful past. http://pfl.org/article/redeeming-our-life-stories-narrative-family-therapy Sat, 17 Nov 2007 17:00:05 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Our lifetime experiences can have positive and negative impacts on us. Narrative Family Therapy can be a tool in allowing Christ's redemptive love, and other positive stories of our lives, to "re-author" our painful past. depression,stress,conflict,redemption,change,transformation,memories,flashbacks,healing,despair,victory,forgiveness,abuse,loss,sin,betrayal,joy,self-esteem,truth,struggles,cross,christ's_death Changes in life can bring grief, stress, and a longing for the past. Article uses lessons learned from The Mister Rogers Show to show ways to lessen the trauma around transition. http://pfl.org/article/transitions-and-change-a-tribute-to-mr-fred-rogers Sat, 17 Nov 2007 17:08:38 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Changes in life can bring grief, stress, and a longing for the past. Article uses lessons learned from The Mister Rogers Show to show ways to lessen the trauma around transition. anxiety,children,adolescents,family,depression,grief_and_loss,loneliness,adjustment,life-cycle_stages,stability,peace,change,transition,moving,trauma Christ's example of love and attention to children can be a model for adults to reconnect with childhood experiences to restore simple joys, spontaneity, and hope. http://pfl.org/article/emotional-healing-for-adults-through-the-inner-child Sat, 17 Nov 2007 17:16:40 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Christ's example of love and attention to children can be a model for adults to reconnect with childhood experiences to restore simple joys, spontaneity, and hope. anxiety,grief_and_loss,memories,children,adults,adult_children,simplicity,hope,happiness,comfort,nurturance,love Roles and traditions between family members, especially during the holidays, can be altered when a loved one dies. Article brings tips on coping with this sensitive family issue. http://pfl.org/article/when-bereavement-and-holidays-walk-together Sat, 17 Nov 2007 16:15:54 CST Mary Lambrecht, M.S. LMFT Roles and traditions between family members, especially during the holidays, can be altered when a loved one dies. Article brings tips on coping with this sensitive family issue. relationships,family,holidays,christmas,bereavement,roles,traditions,rituals,death,comfort,grief_and_loss We set ourselves up for discouragement and irritation depending on how we talk ourselves through the beginning of each day. http://pfl.org/article/strength-for-all-things Wed, 14 Nov 2007 19:06:56 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC We set ourselves up for discouragement and irritation depending on how we talk ourselves through the beginning of each day. strength,anxiety,gratitude,discontentment There are particular dynamics that keep us from moving forward in the healing process. Our insistence in hanging onto assumptions, should's and have to's block our ability to receive the power to live as we trust in God's strength. http://pfl.org/article/the-illness-of-hanging-on Wed, 14 Nov 2007 19:01:47 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC There are particular dynamics that keep us from moving forward in the healing process. Our insistence in hanging onto assumptions, should's and have to's block our ability to receive the power to live as we trust in God's strength. assumptions,judgments,discouragement,illness,recovery Christmas is a season in which we are reminded of why Christ came. Two things were guaranteed when Christ came into the world. http://pfl.org/article/the-hope-of-christmas Wed, 14 Nov 2007 20:43:18 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Christmas is a season in which we are reminded of why Christ came. Two things were guaranteed when Christ came into the world. christmas,love,hope,faithfulness,holidays,mercy The reality of our position with our Heavenly Father is one that is filled with comfort and help during our difficult times. http://pfl.org/article/the-comfort-of-position Wed, 14 Nov 2007 18:51:02 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC The reality of our position with our Heavenly Father is one that is filled with comfort and help during our difficult times. position,difficult,suffering,comfort,assurance Many experiences of being shamed for one's thoughts and feelings create the idea that one can search for but never find love. God's promise is that He gives us power, love, and sound thinking as we walk with Him. http://pfl.org/article/sabotaging-love Wed, 14 Nov 2007 19:28:18 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Many experiences of being shamed for one's thoughts and feelings create the idea that one can search for but never find love. God's promise is that He gives us power, love, and sound thinking as we walk with Him. shame,sabotaging_love,loving,fears,abuse Children need help in identifying what emotion they feel just as much as we do as adults. Here are some guidelines which are fun and a relaxing way to help your children learn what they may feel and when. http://pfl.org/article/teaching-children-about-feelings Wed, 14 Nov 2007 19:12:23 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Children need help in identifying what emotion they feel just as much as we do as adults. Here are some guidelines which are fun and a relaxing way to help your children learn what they may feel and when. emotions,parenting,feelings,children Detachment is a concept often misunderstood. It does not mean "cut off" from those around you. Provided are questions to ask oneself and spiritual guidelines which aid the process of loving yourself and loving others appropriately. http://pfl.org/article/the-balancing-act-detachment Wed, 14 Nov 2007 10:38:01 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Spring 2007 Volume 14, Issue 1 detachment,emotions,conflict,respect,loving_others Saying "I'm sorry." entail more than these two words. Examples in scripture outline what feeling sorry means and paints a word picture of our internal experience when feeling truly sorry. http://pfl.org/article/saying-im-sorry Wed, 14 Nov 2007 10:35:14 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Summer 2007 Volume 14, Issue 2 conflict,forgiveness,apology,sorrow,repentance,reconcilliation The word "Christmas" originates from a word that actually means "Christ's festival". Shame inhibits us from being able to celebrate the true meaning of Christmas. Five lies shame promotes are identified and discussed. http://pfl.org/article/shame-and-christmas Wed, 14 Nov 2007 20:40:38 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC The word "Christmas" originates from a word that actually means "Christ's festival". Shame inhibits us from being able to celebrate the true meaning of Christmas. Five lies shame promotes are identified and discussed. shame,christmas,lies,celebration In the recovery process, a new kind of honesty is needed to become all that God would have. This article takes a look at one way in which honesty can be helpful in the healing of our ability to relate as God would have us to. http://pfl.org/article/self-sabatoge-and-secret-affections Wed, 14 Nov 2007 19:45:51 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC In the recovery process, a new kind of honesty is needed to become all that God would have. This article takes a look at one way in which honesty can be helpful in the healing of our ability to relate as God would have us to. recovery,self-sabotage,affections,honesty,relationships This candid look at self care outlines the way rules promote rigidty of thought. When rigid in our thinking we turn away from the grace and love of God. Turning away leads to a very lonely existence. http://pfl.org/article/rules-rigidity-and-responsibility Wed, 14 Nov 2007 19:49:40 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC This candid look at self care outlines the way rules promote rigidty of thought. When rigid in our thinking we turn away from the grace and love of God. Turning away leads to a very lonely existence. rules,rigid,responsibility,self_care,recovery,grace,love There isn't a parent on earth who enjoys the idea of their child stealing. Understanding the possible reasons that children steal is foundational to knowing how to respond in discipline. http://pfl.org/article/when-children-steal Tue, 13 Nov 2007 20:39:26 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC There isn't a parent on earth who enjoys the idea of their child stealing. Understanding the possible reasons that children steal is foundational to knowing how to respond in discipline. stealing,children,adolescents,security,fear,deprivation Anger is a complex emotion and uncomfortable for many. Since anger is often a secondary emotion, one is benefited by identifying the primary emotion anger covers. Along with this are the possible thoughts and demands that feed the anger. http://pfl.org/article/whats-behind-that-anger Tue, 13 Nov 2007 10:27:45 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Anger is a complex emotion and uncomfortable for many. Since anger is often a secondary emotion, one is benefited by identifying the primary emotion anger covers. Along with this are the possible thoughts and demands that feed the anger. anger,conflict,emotion,assumptions,expectations Comfort is natural and necessary in our developmental processes. The lack of comfort may set off a cycle of thinking and doing that feeds an inappropriate focus for comfort. http://pfl.org/article/worshipping-comfort Tue, 13 Nov 2007 20:38:43 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Comfort is natural and necessary in our developmental processes. The lack of comfort may set off a cycle of thinking and doing that feeds an inappropriate focus for comfort. comfort,worship,anxiety,craving,triggers,healing,deprivation The power of a look. When someone looks at a nother's face they see the inner thoughts or feelings of that person. What do people see when they look at our faces? http://pfl.org/article/the-look-of-god Tue, 13 Nov 2007 20:38:00 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC The power of a look. When someone looks at a nother's face they see the inner thoughts or feelings of that person. What do people see when they look at our faces? look,thoughts,feelings,shame,disgust,inner_process We need intimacy. Defining what intimacy is and allowing God to increase our ability to give and receive intimacy aids each of us in our growth process. This article includes and exercise for all to identify possible underlying assumptions that may inhibit and increase the potential for intimacy. http://pfl.org/article/the-walk-of-intimacy Tue, 13 Nov 2007 10:50:35 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC We need intimacy. Defining what intimacy is and allowing God to increase our ability to give and receive intimacy aids each of us in our growth process. This article includes and exercise for all to identify possible underlying assumptions that may ... singles,friendship,role_models,relationships,intimacy Our position as a child of God is laden with numerous benefits. Our inheritance is both instant and progressive. http://pfl.org/article/what-a-lot-to-possess Tue, 13 Nov 2007 20:36:59 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Our position as a child of God is laden with numerous benefits. Our inheritance is both instant and progressive. rest,fear,spiritual_character,possess,heirs Practical tips are provided to help children pair emotions with words and a specific technique is described to improve communication for both kids and adults. http://pfl.org/article/communicating-with-kids-and-adults Tue, 13 Nov 2007 10:33:51 CST Whitney Stager, M.S. Fall 2007 Volume 14, Issue 3 children,parenting Examines our natural tendency to "go it alone" and provides a way to envision sharing your burdens with Jesus. http://pfl.org/article/double-yoke-no-burden-is-carried-alone Tue, 13 Nov 2007 13:39:06 CST Whitney Stager, M.S. Examines our natural tendency to "go it alone" and provides a way to envision sharing your burdens with Jesus. alone,burden,share,stress,jesus,together,teamwork Learning how to give without expectation will help to strengthen and revitalize your relationship with others and with God. http://pfl.org/article/why-giving-is-better-than-receiving Tue, 13 Nov 2007 13:46:39 CST Whitney Stager, M.S. Learning how to give without expectation will help to strengthen and revitalize your relationship with others and with God. giving,expectations,conflict,selfishness,anger,fairness,scorekeeping Using the analogy of a love story, this brief passage describes the tenderness of God's love for each one of us. The holiday of Christmas is especially noted as it is a special time to celebrate the gift of God's commitment to us. http://pfl.org/article/christmas-gods-sacred-covenant Mon, 12 Nov 2007 20:33:08 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Using the analogy of a love story, this brief passage describes the tenderness of God's love for each one of us. The holiday of Christmas is especially noted as it is a special time to celebrate the gift of God's commitment to us. christmas,love_story,tenderness,recovery,heart_of_god Resisting the existence of grief robs us of the comfort available in our relationship with the Lord. A brief example of one girl's grief is shared. http://pfl.org/article/allowing-grief Mon, 12 Nov 2007 22:22:20 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Resisting the existence of grief robs us of the comfort available in our relationship with the Lord. A brief example of one girl's grief is shared. death_of_a_loved_one,grief,loss,recovery,healing_tears Hope comes from facin our battles with the flesh before the grace and mercy of God. I Peter 1:13 is the basis of this devotional. http://pfl.org/article/resting-in-hope Mon, 12 Nov 2007 22:26:34 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Hope comes from facin our battles with the flesh before the grace and mercy of God. I Peter 1:13 is the basis of this devotional. resting,freedom,self_evaluation,perception,hope The habit of pushing oneself through for the sake of performance or accomplishment is a trap. Involving our relationship with the Lord reveals His promise to remove the burden from our shoulder and bring His pacing to our daily life. http://pfl.org/article/removing-the-burden Mon, 12 Nov 2007 22:32:48 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC The habit of pushing oneself through for the sake of performance or accomplishment is a trap. Involving our relationship with the Lord reveals His promise to remove the burden from our shoulder and bring His pacing to our daily life. pacing,performance,relationship,promise,healing,submission,humility Humor in our culture has taken a sarcastic, demeaning turn. Learning to communicate from our hear with wisdom is different than communicating humor with respect for another. God's view of this type of humor is discussed http://pfl.org/article/humor-and-perversity Mon, 12 Nov 2007 22:15:34 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Humor in our culture has taken a sarcastic, demeaning turn. Learning to communicate from our hear with wisdom is different than communicating humor with respect for another. God's view of this type of humor is discussed humor,sarcasm,attachment,connection,friendship,belonging,conflict Confrontation is a difficult behavior to master yet crucial in our ability to build a sense of equality and respect in relationships. There are specific steps in preparing to confront that one can follow that help in creating the best possible outcome. http://pfl.org/article/confrontation Fri, 09 Nov 2007 21:05:13 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Confrontation is a difficult behavior to master yet crucial in our ability to build a sense of equality and respect in relationships. There are specific steps in preparing to confront that one can follow that help in creating the best possible outcome. confronting,confrontation,anger,conflict_resolution There are varied reasons for the development of perfectionism in our lives. Understanding the possible sources and reconstructing our belief system is founded in God's Word and His love for us. http://pfl.org/article/combating-perfectionism Fri, 09 Nov 2007 21:02:04 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC There are varied reasons for the development of perfectionism in our lives. Understanding the possible sources and reconstructing our belief system is founded in God's Word and His love for us. stress,performance,pride,mistakes,perfectionism,failure There are various fears and concerns that feed behaviors not helpful in our relationships with one another. Specific guidelines are available to aid us in our n eed for clarity of thought and behavior as we seek to experience and provide healthy styles of interacting. http://pfl.org/article/clarity-of-thought-in-relationships Fri, 09 Nov 2007 20:58:45 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC There are various fears and concerns that feed behaviors not helpful in our relationships with one another. Specific guidelines are available to aid us in our n eed for clarity of thought and behavior as we seek to experience and provide healthy ... anxiety,boudnaries,conflict,family,marriage Providing a personal perspective of Christmas as a child and then as an adult allows us to implement the power of our faith during this stressul time of the year. http://pfl.org/article/christmas-then-and-now Fri, 09 Nov 2007 20:29:13 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Providing a personal perspective of Christmas as a child and then as an adult allows us to implement the power of our faith during this stressul time of the year. stress,mental_health,holidays,christmas,healing Martha was unique in her refusal to not question God. She pursued Jesus in hope of receiving answers and comfort in her time of grief and loss. Using her life we will see the utilization of her skills and God's merciful response to her pain. http://pfl.org/article/martha-can-you-believe Fri, 09 Nov 2007 20:30:11 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Martha was unique in her refusal to not question God. She pursued Jesus in hope of receiving answers and comfort in her time of grief and loss. Using her life we will see the utilization of her skills and God's merciful response to her pain. coping_skills,believing_god,grief,loss,death The desire for revenge is within each one of us in the face of hurtful or offensive behavior. It is our way of saying we are not the villains. God has called us to bless one a nother. Blessing one another requires a cessation of treating others as if they are always the villains. In doing so, we open the door to receiving God's intended blessing towards us. http://pfl.org/article/conflict-and-the-call-to-bless Fri, 09 Nov 2007 20:31:40 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC The desire for revenge is within each one of us in the face of hurtful or offensive behavior. It is our way of saying we are not the villains. God has called us to bless one a nother. Blessing one another requires a cessation of treating others as if ... blessing_others,marriage_revenge,conflict Feelings of anger often cover many different primary emotions: hurt, confusion, fear, and rejection. Deprivation, often based in fear, is a part of life. Placing our confidence in the Lord's availability may not reduce deprivation but can help increase our ability to be comforted. http://pfl.org/article/deprivation-and-anger Fri, 09 Nov 2007 20:28:08 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Feelings of anger often cover many different primary emotions: hurt, confusion, fear, and rejection. Deprivation, often based in fear, is a part of life. Placing our confidence in the Lord's availability may not reduce deprivation but can help ... deprivation,stress,depression,loss,anger,conflict Abraham's life, among others, exhibits the impact of fear on our choices. The reward outlined by the Lord for those who persevere is His increased presence in our lives. http://pfl.org/article/abraham-fear-and-choice Fri, 09 Nov 2007 11:36:26 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC Abraham's life, among others, exhibits the impact of fear on our choices. The reward outlined by the Lord for those who persevere is His increased presence in our lives. fear,choices,suffering,stress,anxiety The metaphor of how plants grow provides for us a picture for our own individual process. Growing in understanding of this process and God's involvememnt aids in our ability to remain faithful to the journey. http://pfl.org/article/the-process-of-individual-growth Fri, 09 Nov 2007 21:09:07 CST Brenda Spina, M.S., LMFT, LPC The metaphor of how plants grow provides for us a picture for our own individual process. Growing in understanding of this process and God's involvememnt aids in our ability to remain faithful to the journey.